I want to have a good relantionship with my mom?

Question

with my mom.sometimes i fight with her.is becuase she always insults me everytime she gets mad or when i get her mad.and it hurts.that makes me want to cut myself.but i love her.she's a great mother and she has always been there for me in good times and bad times.what do i do to have a good relantionship with my mom?

Answer 1

I had the same problem as you did.

What I did was I wrote my mom a super dooper long letter, explaining how I was sorry for the things I did wrong, and how I knew that they were wrong. I also then explained how I felt towards my mother, and how it made me feel.

IF you do this, or talk to her in person, make sure to not use accusitory statements, like, "You are so mean to me I hate you!" And always keep your cool. In the end, it will all work out.

And everything happens for a reason!

:]

My best wishes!

Answer 2

well one way is to start with baby steps

say "mom i love you" every morning

give her a hug.

if you are in the situation that you 2 are arguing listen and don't talk back

talk about your day at school to her

let her know whats happening in your life

and ask her whats going on in hers.

do something fun togther ex... bowling or going to the beach.

relationship is about communication and trust

thats all too it

it takes two to make any relationship work

& please do yourself a favor stop cutting

its not worth it.. it only leaves scars..

your body is precious so don't treat it like that

good luck

=]

Answer 3

Please stop cutting yourself.  You deserve better than that.  I am assuming you are a girl because cutting is uncommon in boys.  I am a mom myself and I would never yell at my kids.  I would make her a surprise Sunday morning breakfast and have a nice talk. If that doesn't work please seek out other elder women you can talk to for encouragement because at your age you need that.  My mother was a depressed mentaly ill woman and I had other female relatives I turned to and some women teachers too.  Try the Boys and Girls club to match you with a woman mentor.  You need help with your self esteem.  I care and wish you the best!

Answer 4

I think the most important thing to have is patience.  Be patient, don't insult her when you get mad..walk away and calm down.

Tell her how you feel when you feel it.