I want to have a "real" wedding on my 10 year anniversary is that so bad?

Question

When me and my husband go married 8 years ago we did the justice of the peace thing because we already lived together for 3 years and had a 2 year old and figured well whatever. Well now that all our friends have been getting married and having big pretty weddings I realized I really wanted that and I was thinking we could get "remarried" on our 10th anniversary and have the big to do that I wanted. But after 10 years should we do something like that?

Answer 1

Yes.  I think 10 years of marriage deserve a party and if you want it to be a wedding then do it.

Answer 2

My friend and her husband had a similiar situation. They did the "real" wedding for their 5 year anniversary. It was a blast! Some people may feel like you are looking for gifts - but too bad for them! Your loved ones will be happy to celebrate with you!

Answer 3

Have a nice anniversary party instead!  If you must do the vow renewal ceremony, I would not mention it on your invitations but instead have it be a surprise to your guests.  Encore weddings are tacky for any reason!  

Answer 4

Second wedding ceremonies are becoming more common because like you, other Brides and Grooms got married "at the courthouse" and now they want to do something "bigger and better."  They want the party that they never had!

There are alot of things you can do . . and there are a few things that you should not do . . but no matter what you do it should be done with dignity and in good taste.

It is appropirate to . .

Wear a cream or off white bridal gown and tuxedo

Carry a lovely bouquet of flowers

Have a Maid of Honor, a Best Man, bridesmaids, and flower girls

Mail out printed invitations

Order a three tiered-wedding cake

Hire a band and/or Disc Jockey

Hire a professional photographer and/or videographer

Encourage your guests to contribute to your favorite charitable organization in lieu of wedding gifts

It is NOT appropriate to . .

Wear a veil in front of your face when you walk down the aisle

Purchase a WHITE bridal gown

Have any type of shower

Register for any gifts

Encourage any type of "personal gift requests"

This event should be a "celebration of your love" not a reason to fill your home with new towels, new casserole dishes, and a high-tech toaster.

Answered by:  A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant /  A Wedding ceremony officiant

Answer 5

Yeah! :-D  Do it!   It's always a good time to celebrate your love. :-D

Answer 6

Hi.  NO, this is not a good idea.  I can totally understand how the "wedding I didn't have" thoughts are coming back to haunt you, but the fact of the matter is that you made your choice and you are now married and have a nice family.

Don't have a wedding "do-over" because, in fact, it cannot be a wedding since you are already married.  Period.

I agree wtih The Kellster.  Why not throw yourselves a 10th anniversary party?  Wear a simple white sundress, have food, drinks, an anniversary cake, even a DJ (if you want), but don't call it a wedding because it's not.  Sorry.

Answer 7

You can do whatever you like.

I also got married @ the JP.  

I had a big wedding / ceremony  with all of my family and friends.

Every women should enjoy this part of life by having a wedding planned out just the way they want!!!

Good Luck and Congrats!!!

Answer 8

I think it's okay. I actually know a couple who is going to do kinda the same thing, but instead of actually gettin remarried they are having an anniversary celebration. It is gonna be elaborate as far as the dinner, reception, and they are going to say some touching words to each other in front of their family and friends. Things that they couldn't do years ago. The only thing is the dress, tux and usual wedding stuff isn't gonna happen. I don't think it's a cheap way to get wedding gifts. Please after that long people are gonna give that some heavy thought anyway. You just had stuff backwards to people(as far as living together and a baby). But most people do that now. If your gonna do it do it for you, not cuz you want to jump on trend train. Good Luck.

Answer 9

I think that's a great idea, as long as it's what you BOTH really want. I would actually prefer to get married by a justice of the peace and then to have an "actual" wedding 5 - 7 years later. My boyfriend wouldn't want that though. My sister was also actually planning on doing exactly what you might do. She was just so young at the time, that she and her boyfriend didn't have the time or money to spend on a big wedding. Anyway, do whatever makes you both happy :) Good luck on whatever you decide to do.

Answer 10

sure!  why not!  you could do a "renewel of vows" and have the wedding of your dreams.  i had the traditional wedding and it was truly the best day of my life.  but, i always wanted to get married on the beach, so i was thinking on our 10th anniversary we would have a small ceremony in cabo (where we honeymooned).  have fun with it and do what YOU and YOUR husband want!!!!!  good luck!

Answer 11

I don't see why not.

My childhood friend and her husband were married quickly as he had to go to training for the army and they (her and the kids) could not join him unless they were married.

They are having a 'wedding' for their fifth anniversary.  They are renewing their vowels in front of all of their friends who could not make it to the registry, having a reception and going on a weekend away.

She is not wearing white - and that is her decision, I believe she will go for plum purple or peacock blue.  

If you never got a special day - have one!  If anything it may be a bit more fun and relaxing than if you planned a white wedding originally.    

Answer 12

Yes most definitely !

My friend has been married for 15 years and her husband proposed again to her lol, they are now having their wedding blessed in church with bridesmaids and the whole shebang next july.

Go for it, and treat it like your first time, it will be amazing and dont forget to wear exactly what you want and not what you think you should be wearing.

You have one shot at this so go for it completely !

Good luck.

Answer 13

Sure, lots of people do.

Answer 14

i dont see why not! i think its very romantic! me and my husband plan on renewing our vows every 5 years.

Answer 15

No, you shouldnt do that. You got married at the JOP and that was completely your choice, now live with it. There are no do-overs in my book. If you want to throw yourselves an awesome anniversary party that is one thing, but no white dress and ceremony and all that jazz. Truly, married people re-enacting a wedding? How pathetic does that make you look?

Answer 16

Honestly, having a "wedding" after so many years together just sounds a little ridiculous and like a ploy for attention or presents.

Why not just throw a fabulous tenth anniversary party without calling it a "wedding"? Wear a white cocktail dress if you want, throw it wherever you would have your wedding reception, and go all out. This is a cause to celebrate, after all!

Answer 17

I don't see why not,  as long as you can handle it financially, it would be a great way of celebrating your tenth year anniversary as well.  But above all, don't do it because everyone else is, but because it would be the right thing to do.  

Answer 18

To my thinking a wedding should have an actual marriage taking place, not be some sort of Civil War re-enactment pageant. However I think it is a splendid idea to go absolutely over the top for your anniversary party with a once-in-a-lifetime gown for you, formal wear for the guys, a catered meal, champagen, a fancy cake, a band, a limo, and so on. And a surprise renewal of vows thrown in somewhere. (You surprise your guests with this because if the invitation carried any hint that this is anything more than an anniversary party, if there is anything 'bridal' or 'wedding' about it, then guests will see it as fishing for gifts.)

If you are thinking of a long white dress, a walk down the aisle, tossing your bouquet, and that sort of thing -- please think of something else. I think that sort of "Christmas in August" party is a good idea if say someone is deployed to Iraq or the family home burned down in December or something. But having a "re-play" just because "we can do it better now" seems silly ... and will be seen as greedy if you try it with something so closely linked with gift giving as a wedding is.  

Answer 19

We're having a renewal of vows for our 10th wedding anniversary. I don't see why not. Have fun planning.

good luck. :)  

Answer 20

It's up to you.  But, really what is the point?  Renewing vows yes.  But, if you just want to have a "pretty wedding" then no!  Go on a second honeymoon!