I want to have another baby but the thought of my age when they get to 12th grade gets to me?

Question

I'm going on 30 this Nov 1 and I thought about having another baby but for some reason I can't help but think how old I'll be when he or she gets out of high school. Did anyone ever stop and think about something like that?

Answer 1

I have... I will be 21 when my little girl is born, so I will be 38 when she graduates. I am concerned about being the youngest parent when I take her to her first day of kindergarten etc.  

Answer 2

You are definitely not too old.  I am going to be 28 when my baby is born in January and I am definitely going to be having more and not straight away either.  I say go for it!

Answer 3

We're living in a generation where mother's are holding off on having babies until their late 30's and early 40's! I'm 37 now and pregnant w/ my 2nd child. I'll be in my mid-fifties when my kids are out of high school but I'll have a mind and body of a 40 year old.  

Answer 4

It doesn't matter how old you're going to be when your kids graduate. And you're not even that old yet. I'm 16 years old, and my mom will be 56 when I graduate high school in 2 years. My cousin who is the same age has a dad that will be close to 70 years old when he graduates. It doesn't bother me that my mom is that age because I love her, and she's a good mom. I think you should go ahead and try for another baby because you have nothing to worry about.

Answer 5

relax dont you know that no matter what age we are that our children and their firends still view us as old people thats how kids look at their parents so relax believe it or not your current child will feel the same way when he/ she gets to 12th grade

theyre going to think you dont understand certain things because your old admit it we have all been there  

Answer 6

Ok, I just turned 31 last month. I have a 3 year old daughter and I'm expecting my second child in February. The only thing about age that I thought was, "When my babies are in their twenties, I will be in my fifties".... I don't think that's so bad. By that time, they will be adults anyway. Who says 50 is old?

Answer 7

It doesn't matter one whit! Someone in her late forties these days is just as perky as in their 30s!

I had my son when I was 30, and am now 47 - he's going into grade 12 this fall, so I'll be 48 when he graduates.

I think you just need to realize there isn't a heck of a lot of difference between being 30 and 48 - really! I have like only three 'gray' hairs, and have been just as much - even more - of an active parent than most!

I'll always be 25 in my heart and spirit!

Answer 8

yeah I have thought about it, I had my first when I was 19 and I thought "great when she graduates then I will still be young enough to have fun" but then I had my son a month before my 28th and that idea went down the drain. I don't really want to have anymore and I feel really superficial because it is mainly because I don't want to be old when they are grown and gone. I want some me time.

Answer 9

You will be in your late 40's.  So what.  It's not like 47 is old.  I know lots of parents that are in their late 40's with kids just starting high school. They are all fun, outgoing people.  I'm 42 and my daughter is just starting High school...all her friends think I'm cool....age is just a number!

Answer 10

I'm 30 and just had my first child 10 months ago and plan to have 2 to 3 more kids. It does not bother me on what age I will be when they get out of school. My parents were 50 when I graduated from High school and was 57 when my youngest sister graduated. They are still going strong with not signs or slowing down so I figured if my parents can do it so can I.

Answer 11

Who cares..

Really?  As long as you can provide a healthy, financially stable home for him/her then why does it matter how old you'll be when he/she graduates?

Answer 12

NAh! I'm 35 and just had my second...I will be 55 when she is 20...that's fine! 55 isn't very old...just seems it now...

Answer 13

my mom will be 53 when my youngest sister gets out of high school, that's pretty old.  

Answer 14

o my god yeah i had my daughter when i was 21 she was unexpected surprise and now im settled and married were 23 weeks preg and i turn 30 in april it does seem that im so old but then again lots of people are having babys later in life everybody  is dif and i do rem used to say o wouldnt go over 30 which ive just got into but i decided that 35 is my age now and thats it and hay ur only as old as u feel anyway xxxx

Answer 15

Thats the norm. I'm 18 and just finished school. Both my parents are 48, and the majority of my friends parents are 47-50. Its absolutely average so go ahead and spread the miracle of life!

Answer 16

My mum was 22 when she had me and was the youngest one at the school gates.  She had my brother 3 years later and was still one of the younger mums.  When she was 37 she had my half-brother!  Most of the parents at the school are closer to her age now which just goes to show that people are having their children later in life (career first, children later).  I think that if you want to have another baby then you should go for it, there are certainly a lot of mothers older than you out there when they have their first so i wouldnt worry about your age now or then!  

When i had my first i did think that when he finishes school i will be 38, but other than that i really hadnt thought about my age, only the age gap between him and any subsequent children i might have as thats what bothered me.