I want to have children but my other half had a vasectomy and doesn't want to reverse it what can i do?

Question

We have been together for 5 years and at first he was open to reversing the vasectomy but now with doctors saying it most likely wont work he doesn't see the point in going through all the pain... I want to have a child to carry of my own because he has one already and I have learned so much from his daughter and I have taught her so much that I would like to experience with my own.... What can I do?What other options are out there...I'm open to anything.. Someone please help I'm so frustrated!!

Answer 1

You need to find a couple of doctors who will give you other options, like removing the sperm directly from his balls or something. Then you need to sit him down and tell him how important this is to you. Then if he still isn't wild about it, tell him you want a sperm donor then. His choice: my baby or some rando guy's baby? Harsh, but, he needs to know how serious you are.

Answer 2

sperm donater is really your only option talk to your doctor they can refer you to a specialist who can help

Answer 3

CHEAT!!!!! LOL, JUST KIDDING, MAYBE YOU CAN ADOPT

Answer 4

I was more than 3 years with my ex. He didn't want children or he  couldn't have children, I don't know. But when I realised that we won't have children because of this problem, I had to leave him. That was my decision. I was very upset, he was very upset, but I had to continue with my life. Now I have a very nice fiancee who wants children with me and he wants to get married. I'm very happy now. You have to make your personal choice and decide what you want in your  life. Good luck and remember that you're the most important person right now.!!!!

Answer 5

it costs a lot of money for invetro fertilization (my uncle did this for his wife) esp. if it doesn't work the first time. FYI my mom's friends' husbands became untied naturally, so maybe say some prayers first and see if that works ;) lol and then see if it is worth the money and your financial situation to move forward with other options. hate to say divorce, but this is a big issue and you don't want to hold this against him and resent him. you really need to talk together and find a happy compromise. God Bless and Good Luck!!