I want to have my wedding in a garden nursery. Is this weird?

Question

There is a cafe and the plants and gardens are very pretty. I do not know whether to have a small wedding of just parents and close family in my parent's back yard garden or have a reasonable sized wedding in this garden nursery. I was also thinking of the park. So many choices. My fiance doesn't care. It is not his first wedding and he just wants me to be happy. I am pretty independent and even though my family has tried to help me arrange things. I prefer to do things my way.My mother and I are constantly bickering. I keep telling her it is my day. Is that rude? She wants to invite these people she thinks should come and they are put out because I said I am not sure if I want to invite you. (In a politer way of course) So many questions but I am so confused as to where to have it and what to do. A date has not been set yet.

Answer 1

You're thinking summer, right? Also, the nursery will lose money from regular plant-buying customers if they have to close for a private function, so they might charge a hefty fee. Also unlikely to have many washrooms.  Otherwise, sounds nice.  

Answer 2

I got married in a public park in the Rose Garden and it was very beautiful!!! it was a nice sunny day and everyone enjoyed it. your right it is YOUR day and it will be your day for the rest of your life so dont do anything to make anyone happy but yourself... its your day to be selfish and make you happy.

About who to invite... i sent out 300 invitations and only 175-200 showed , so put some thought into it and if you want it small and personal ...so be it, again honey...its YOUR day!!

Congrats  

Answer 3

Two years ago I helped arrange, plan, and organize a wedding at a "garden center nursery."  And it was NOT a pleasant experience.

The ceremony was supposed to take place behind the main building where the trees (for sale) and shrubery (for sale) and waterfall are located.

The wedding was scheduled for 3PM even though the garden center (owned by the Bride's brother) did not close until 5PM.  I was told by the Bride the garden center would close at Noon so they could set up chairs and decorate (and that did not happen).  Here it is 3PM, the Bride is walking down the aisle, and customers are shopping for hoes, petunias, and bug spray inside the building.  Yes, it was just as ridiculous as it sounds.  And it gets even sillier, after the ceremony the Bride's brother told all of the customers that they could walk over to the tent . . introduce themselves to the Bride and Groom, and help themselves to food and drink.  

So my message to you is . . if you are going to have your ceremony at a garden nursery center make sure it is CLOSED FOR BUSINESS that day so you don't have strangers walk up to the buffet and help themselves.

Answered by:  A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

Answer 4

I got married in a rose garden. It was very beautiful the roses were in full bloom. My husb and I also paid for it so, its your day and your paying, invite who you want, and have it how you want. It your wedding not her's

Answer 5

Ok, go with your fiancee and have him take some pic's of you at the nursery and at the other places you are thinking of having your wedding.

Look at the pic's. Is this where you want to have your wedding? Can you see yourself with family and friends having  a happy ceremoney here.

Good luck

Answer 6

I'm having mine at a Botanical gardens nearby. I love it, it's gorgeous.  We wanted an outdoor wedding, being in nature with all the pretty colours. So that's what we did.

It is not rude to tell your mom it's your day.  If that doesn't stop. tell her "you've had yours, this is mine and if you can't handle that I'm going to have to keep my wedding plans a secret from now on"  You may not want to be AS blunt as I was there, but be very straightforwarded and keep it semi-kind (she is still your mother).  Your mother should never tell anyone that they are invited and leave it to you to say they aren't. ugh! that bugs me a bit that she would do that.  Is she paying? if she is then she does have some say over the guest list. but compromise. If you are paying she has no say unless you give her some.

Good luck, try to enjoy the planning and the day and CONGRATS!!!!

Answer 7

It may not be the most common place to have a wedding at, but where ever your wedding is at that makes you happy is probably the best.

Answer 8

I think a nursery is a very cute idea.  I love natural backdrops, too.  I guess it's all up to you.  Either way, you'll save on flowers! =)

As far as your mother--tell her to compile a list of all the people she wants to have at your wedding.  Tell your mother-in-law, future husband to do the same--and then you make one for yourself.

Then, cut it back from there.  Tell your mother that you want this to be the wedding of your dreams--and while her say is important, you get the final say.  Avoid conversations about who is invited and who isn't with the prospective guests.  They'll know when they get an invitation.

Good luck and let us know what you choose!