I want to help but don't know how?

Question

I have a friend who is in a bad relattionship. He treats her like dirt and is extremely controlling, he also smokes drugs and I have heard him talk to one of their daughters in an inappropriate way when she was just 12 months. She isn't happy, she tells me all the time but she is just too scared to leave him. She is so easily taken advantage of, even her mum takes money off her and never pays it back, knowing that she will let her get away with it. He is ruining her life! She has already tried to kill herself once aand im scared she will do it again. They have 3 kids too. I have tried to help her andd she wants it but she is just too scared. What do I do? What would you do?

Answer 1

You can suggest them to be in a Marriage Counseling. I really think that would help them. But if doesn't works. It's better to just divorce.

Answer 2

all the decisions is up to her..but you can do little help that might convince her to do the right thing..

hmn it's best to have a heart to heart talk with her. your friend surely, is afraid of him and she don't know exactly what the right thing to do...being abused sexually or emotionally is not a good experience and you'll need to give her your patience and understanding as your primary help. you can advice her to have a marriage counsel..to talk to a legal counsel perhaps to settle the legal matters. always check/call her to know if she's alright and to give some emotional support. if she have a cellular phone..put the necessary contact numbers there like..the nearest police station/hospital etc. that might help her in case there's an emergency. befriend her neighbors so that you have someone to look for her in times you can't visit her. don't forget to pray for her and her children's safety all the time. good luck

Answer 3

i think you can't do anything cuz this is the matter of houses...i mean if i were u i would think that the parents must divorce...cuz this is a very bad life!!!!!!

i don't know what u have to do but...

i'll pray for this girl

THX

CAROLINE (EGYPTE)

Answer 4

id try to get my friend away let her come stay with me for a while if she would come. id try to show her she she has more of a reason to be scared if she were to  stay. Also i know this may seem strange but you read about abusive relationships all the time in papers and magazines,maybe if she couldn't see what i was telling her i would find an article to show her just what can happen. I hope you can get her out of there.