I want to help out my sister......?

Question

My sister is pregnat, almost 19 and married(they say they're in love). She lives with my parents in the finished basement which has two bedrooms and a bathroom with her husband.

She's 2 months along and is talking about possibly giving this baby up for adoption because her husband just lost her job because he was injured and she has to work full time (she doesn't attend college either) at Walmart and knows that her pay will not be able to support the baby, her husband and pay rent(my parents have her pay rent since she's married and doesn't live upstairs with them).

I am currently looking to adopt and my sister said that she would like for me to adopt her baby, instead of giving it to compleete strangers. Her husband agrees.

However, my sister just admitted to having s*x with another man after she married her husband, just 2 days before she found out she was pregnat! The man is 20 and is intrested in keeping this baby.

They are going to have a DNA test when the~Contunie~

Answer 1

The "other guy", if he is the father, has rights. If he would choose to parent the child, and your sister does not want to do so, then he will most likely be given full custody by the courts. Indeed, she may be responsible for child support.

Answer 2

Wow, you have a very active imagination!  Your questions are great.

I'm so glad you have kept them available in your profile.  

Yes, by all means you should do anything you can to help your sister.  I'm sure she really appreciates you airing her  dirty laundry for all to see.

Unfortunately, since you are currently unemployed and living off of others yourself, I would think twice before making any rash decisions.  And anyway, didn't you already adopt your sister's three-year-old?  

Good luck.

Answer 3

By your various questions, you seem to think you should be able to grab us someone's kid no matter what.  Why on earth would you think you should stand in the way of a father raising his OWN child?  What's with that?  

Do you really want to help your sister?  Then focus on your own life, the kids you already have and getting a job.  Stay out of everyone else's business.

Answer 4

well first thing you need to do is actually talk to god he si the olny thing that can do anything he si awsome so talk ot god alll we cna do iss give u ideas but if u want help fast talk to GOD!!!

Answer 5

Ok lets see.... Your already rasing your sister's 3 year old daughter, you also say your sister has adopted 9 children  plus your sister hates the way your raising your 22 month old wrong and she has a 4 yer old and a 13 month old. Plus were you not in the middle of the adoption process.... hmmmm makes me wonder something here is fishy. It does not all add up.

Answer 6

If DNA testing proves he is the bio father of the baby, he has FULL rights to parent the baby if he chooses to, not matter what your sister wants.  If she chooses to not parent this baby, he would be able to seek full custody.  It is not certain that he would get custody however, because as the legal father of the baby, your sister's husband also has rights!  A judge would have to make the determination.  And that might take 6 months to a year if handled in court.  Outside of court, your sister and he could make any arrangement they want.

Answer 7

I think you should like...take all the babies in the world and like help them all and like adopt them all, and like if you can't like adopt them then maybe like you can cry about it or something.  But, obviously like you are the greatest like mother, or else you wouldn't like have such a heart to save all these like children who like obviously need to be saved.  

(Please note the sarcasm)

You need to grow up.  Seriously.  Stop taking everyone's babies.  Stop wasting the people on here's time with your really silly and obviously FAKE life situations.  If you were living the life you are...trying to portray in your questions NO ONE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD LET YOU ADOPT A CHILD.

Oh, and you don't just get to go to the hospital two months after deciding to adopt and hold a baby and THINK THAT YOU ARE DOING IT FOR THE CHILD.  

In the future:



Make your questions private if you are going to continue to make up such insane stories about your life.

And there is a thing called google.  Use it to research adoption.

That is all.

Answer 8

I'm sure you have better things to do than make this stuff up, really!

Great story though,  you should take a creative writing class

Answer 9

family adoption is a bad idea, she will come to a point where she will want her baby back and your life will become a nightmare. I know this for a fact. She needs to step up to the plate and take care of her child regardless who that babies father is.There are ways to get help in this country, so that's not an excuse. Or she needs to give this baby to a family she doesn't know so the child will have a life. I'm not saying you would not be a good parent, but you will get your heart broke.

Answer 10

wow they can do ammo test at 4 mths just ask the doctor and if the other guy is the father at least the baby will be with the father but if her husband does not want to keep the baby then why is she married to him a baby isn't much to take care of you don't have to be rich believe in god he will guide you either way she should talk to a professional and get help i think she should keep her baby even if her husband is the daddy the other guy wants to keep it maybe she should marry him  good luck with everything

Answer 11

the problem is that your sister should've made better choices in life. if this guy is the father then he has every right to raise HIS child if the mother cannot. i understand you wanting to help and want a child but it comes down to parental rights and boy is she lucky her husband has stayed w/her. see this is why people should think of the consequences of pre-marital s*x. don't get your hopes up for this child b/c she/he may be going to live  with it's real father.

oh wait depending on what state you're in even if it's proven that the other guy is the bio dad in most states if it's born in marriage it's the husband's kid. i hope it turns out to be the husband's b/c it'll just make things easier,but they guy still can petition the courts for custody especially since they were gonna give it up anyway. he would be the first choice if it's his for either custody or adoption.