I want to know how would i go about finding my birth mother if my adoption is closed?

Question

i know the given name that was given to me when i was first born. I contacted the the adoption agency and they gave me the year and country my mother was born. the only thing that i dont know is her name so i want to know do they have a site or anything that u can find that would give names of babys born at a certain hospital during a certain month and yr? this is very important to me

Answer 1

Need more details to answer this question.  What country, what state, some states have birth indexes available for searching but most do not.  You can not contact or find any information directly from hospitals or doctors because of privacy laws (HIPPA).  There is no one site to do this searching.  If a US adoption the agency should have given you complete non-identifcaton information regarding your birth family.  This may also help in your search depending on how detailed the info.

Answer 2

You have given very limited information in this question.  If you don't share what area and the year, we can't help point you in the right direction.  ;o)

Answer 3

You need to research the internet extensively about this.  My husband was adopted from Canada and brought to Bermuda, which is under Great Britian.  Their adoption records are sealed, but he was able to find a website where Canadian-born babies can enter all the information they have, and if the mother is also registered, they match you up.  He found his mother this way, but this was ONLY because she was also looking for him.

If records are sealed and your mother isn't trying to find you, I think it'll be very difficult to find this info - but if it's important to you, of course worth the try.  Good luck.

Answer 4

I am adopted to.  Fortuantly I had my biological mothers name.  But if you really want to know who she is your best bet is to petition a judge in the county where the adoption took place at.  Petition them to open your case, so as you are able to access info.  Some states and counties wont let you do it unless you  have medical reason to, but some other ones are diferent.  If that doesnt work, try contacting the hospital where you were born.  Alot of them at that time records were in paper form, so unless they put it into the computers, it might take a little bit to get the info.  You can also look in the social security index of births and death records.  These are just some places to start.  I wish you the best of luck And I hope you get your questions answered.  But just remember your mother may have placed you up for adoption, but that is the greates sacrifice of love.  To be able to admit that you are not capable to rasie the child that you nurioused and felt move inside you for nine months is one of the hardest things to do, and it is only done with the greatest love.

Answer 5

I had more information than you did but this private detective was very reasonable and helpful.:  Jaymie Frederick  [e-mail].  

The agency has a pledge of confidentiality to the mother regardless of state law.  In my case records were open in the state of Ohio but the agency itself could only give a non-identifying narrative.

There are several online resources that have the links you need to get basic information that may be available outside the agency.

I was fortunate that my birth mother responded.  It's hard to accept when you want information that your birthmother also has rights.  Your right to know ends at her doorstop if she chooses to remain private.

Answer 6

This is coming from experience here....I am surprised that the agency gave you the country and the year.  They normally don't do that.  But it is helpful.  

How I found my family is, I knew my name as well.  In this search, the agency provided me with non-identifying information.  This included the years of my family's birthdays, information of father, and it contained some very important information about my birth grandfather. I knew that he was deceased one year prior to my birth.  

I then proceeded to the library and microfiched the obits from the year prior to my birth (1970) and I found a name that matched my last name.  In this list contained the name of my mother, uncles and aunt.  I learned that my grandparents (both) are deceased, and that my grandfather was also adopted.  

I then searched out names from the obits on a people search, and found a matching name.  I wrote a letter to one of my uncle's who then responded within two days of my sending it.  

If you have the basics, your search should be easy.  Also, look in the census books from the year before your birth and then a year or two after.  This will help you also locate any family members.  

Good luck on your search and I hope that you find what you are looking for.  

Hospitals cannot give out information that you are wanting.  So your best route is to go the way I suggested.  It is free, and the excitement of leads is awesome.  

Again, I wish you the best of luck.