I want to know if I am wrong?

Question

I met this girl its been a short time ago, she is so much younger than I am she is 21 and I am 33 I met her at a party not really met I seen her and I ask a friend just to let me meet her and I did and now we do talk and hang out she is leaving soon in a couple of days and will be back next year I hope but its hard I really like this girl I have told her in a little bit a way but not allot and am interested in a long term relationship but I don't know she is so much younger than me and I feel scared I don't want people to think I am a bad person for dating a girl that is so much younger than me. we have spent some time together since we have meet but is such a short time to get to know some one and she says she will call me when she get back home. She said only one time a week if that. I want the girl to know I like her and want to be with her and I am not a player or just want s*x. We have not done any thing at all I tried to kiss her 1 day ago and I got turned down. She told me before that it took her 6 months before she did any thing with a boy friend. Just need some advice about this

Answer 1

Don't worry about the age thing, she isn't that young.  It does sound; however, that she may be putting the brakes on anything too serious developing too soon.  This may be smart to just have the call once a week or several times a month.  Try e-mailing back and forth too.  Getting to know each other will show if there is real interest for a relationship.  Then when she comes back you will both know if you want just friendship or maybe more.  Good luck, my husband was 33 and I was 21 when we met and it worked out okay.

Answer 2

She only wants to call you less than once a week?  And she waited six months before she did anything with a boyfriend? Doesn't sound like a girl in love to me...

She's clearly not that into you!  

Answer 3

You need someone your age. She is young and has so much to do before she can settle down. Are you the same person at 33 that you were at 21? I guess not.  

Answer 4

Relax. You are both adults. Nowadays, age really isn't a factor in relationships, as long as you are both "of age". If you like each other, things will happen.

Answer 5

u r strange for a guy

Answer 6

Honestly, I think the best thing to do is to just ask her how she feels. But I really think it will be hard to get a meaningful answer from a 21 year-old. No matter how mature she seems for her age, she's still 21. And you still have way more experience under your belt than she does. It's not that she would be purposely misleading in your talk; she may actually think she means what she says one way or another. But she may not know at all. So tell her how you feel. Ask her if it can go anywhere.  

Answer 7

probably not.. i've been in a similar situation and it's difficult to control such things..

it reallllllllllly depends on the girl.. some younger girls are so innocent that it almost feels like taking advantage, but you have to know yourself..  don't torture yourself over this though, just take it slow, don't pressure her and in time you will see if you are wrong..

don't put up boundaries man, it's not easy to find people you really like, and if she likes you than maybe it's worth the risk.. just take it easy, self loathing is extremely unattractive!

Answer 8

Find someone a lil more your age she is too young for you