I want to know if people who have pulled mean stunts in a divorce regret it.?

Question

My soon to be ex wife ran off with another man, Now she is being a real &^%^&. I told her I would give her a divorce if that is what she wanted but today she started pulling some real underhanded c**p, telling me how great her new lover was attacking my abilities in my profession etc etc. Now I have some info and could get her and her new lover in some huge trouble and probably destroy there lively hood. Problem is we have a 1 1/2 year old together so I am going to have to have a relationship with her for 17 1/2 years. Should I s***w up this guys business and leave my ex with nothing, or should I not? Any thoughts?

Answer 1

They will eventually get what they have coming to them. You will be seen as the villain if you arange it. You are correct in that you will have to deal with her on some level for many years don't make it more difficult than it has to be.

Answer 2

Its not worth it.  Keep your dignity.

Answer 3

Ask yourself if you like what they are doing to you. If the answer is no then be the bigger person and let it go. It isn't like you could never use it in the future and sometimes just knowing you have something on them is enough but I do wish you luck because she sounds like a real b...tch.

Answer 4

If this information is harmful to society or your children...run with it.  If not, I think it is best if you let karma do your dirty work.

Answer 5

Take the high road.  Let her pull alll the c**p she wants.  You just ignore it. Get through your divorce and move on with your life.  Focus on your kid.  Move on and get happy.

Answer 6

No, don't respond to her insane behavior.  She's trying to turn it into a fight in an effort to make you look like the bad guy.  She knows she has done wrong and wants to shift all the weight of it off of herself.  Stay on the high road and love your child and you'll be fine.  Don't worry, Karma will take care of her.

Answer 7

The thing you have to remember is she is just being a ***** (which you already knew).  She is just giving you ****, don't let it get to you, it is obvious you both know what the real score is.

If she was accusing you in court of molesting your own child, that would be an example of where you get down on her level and go above and beyond to punish her.

I think if you play these cards at all, it's best to save it for either after the divorce, when her influence on your life is comparatively limited, or as insurance in case she starts really trying to s***w you over.  In fact I would avoid giving her the motivation to do exactly that.  Right now all she's giving you is hot air.  It's really stupid and childish, but in the end it means nothing and I think putting the lovely new couple out on the streets in response is overkill.

Answer 8

You should be better and more mature than her, just because she is acting stupid doesn't mean you should follow her example. Kill her with kindness! Your child will have a lot of respect for you if you act like a mature responsible adult in the situation. Good luck to you!

Answer 9

I would say no because that is a pretty big problem to have ( kids ). Sounds like they will be going through enough as it is.. But I know it's hard not to retaliate. Just keep your cool and do the hardest thing pretend that you do not care.. You ll be a better person for it.

Answer 10

Ever hear the term "Smile, it will make people wonder what you're up to"???

Answer 11

Think about the baby first.  Second everything in life comes home full cirlce if you leave it alone.  You wouldn't want to do anything that would belittle your character. If they are doing something wrong it will come out. Then you get your baby and do the right thing by the child.  Most of the time when people are acting like the other person is so great...believe me they are not. As a matter of fact the relationship might be already in the garbage as I type. She is trying to make you jealous because she is miserable ...don't fall for that c**p. It is the oldest trick in the book. Hold your head up and take care of your child.  

The best of luck to you.

  

Answer 12

Leave it alone.It'll come back to her.

Answer 13

keep the moral high ground and walk away,you may feel like getting revenge now but you will feel better about yourself later on if you have the will power to swallow your ego and walk away,you will also set a good example for your kid,hang in there,things will get better,remember that judges have seen all the dirty tricks,theres not much she can do to you

Answer 14

NO. Do not do anything of the kind! The one who gets hurt the most is your child. And while you won't care if your ex hates you, you WILL care if your child is harmed, at least I hope so. So for your child's sake, take the high road, be the adult in the situation, forget your pathetic ex-wife and her bitchery. Live a life you can be proud of, following ideals you can teach your child. The people who  regret the mean stunts are the ones with a conscience.  It also would hurt you to destroy their livelihood--more child support payments, and less economic stability for your child.