I want to meet a guy im in love with offline for the first time and Im overweight?

Question

Im not incredibly overweight but I want to get into better shape. Im 5'6 and 165 lbs. he wants to meet soon and Im scared that I won't be able to lose atleast 20 lbs in 2 months. He saw my pictures but not full body, my face is thin. just hips and stomach a bit overweight.

any advice? I feel like a loser.

has this ever happened to you?

Answer 1

You shouldn't change for ANYONE but you. If thats what you want for you then you should try pilates. I recommend the 10 minute solution. It's on youtube. Theres also bun and thighs and other great ones. Why not give it a try whats to lose?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=84yC_mEfs...

Answer 2

Look....if he already saw your pics and wants to meet you....then there's nothing wrong! He already likes you the way you are. I know he didn't see all of you...but still....he did see the most important part.....your face....and he likes it!

However, you can always confide in him and tell him the reason why you feel scared to meet him just yet....don't worry...he'll probably appreciate the fact that you're honest and that you have opened up to him in such a way...he'll probably like you even more. Just keep things honest and be always yourself.

Another thing....maybe send him a whole body shot prior to meeting him....just so things are out in the open.

Answer 3

You shouldn't have to lose weight for any guy. If he's worth it, he'll love you just the way you are.

Answer 4

I wouldn't say that you are overweight, but if you want to get in better shape than you are now, go ahead. Don't excersize 24/7, just watch your diet, and go on daily jogs or walks. It pretty refreshing, and you can lose a few pounds while you do it. (If you have a dog its fun to take them too.) Good luck! By the way, this guy isnt worth it if he only cares about looks.

Answer 5

Just send him a full picture.. and have you seen him on a photo.. How do you know what he looks like? Did he send you a proper photo of himself? Just be honest about your weight.. if he likes your character as far as that is possible when only talking over the internet, then he will still meet you in order to find out what you are like in person. There is more to a person than looks and you can lose weight.Not in a short time but you can with a bit of exercise and willpower and healthy food and maybe joining a gym or an aerobics class or going swimming, you can lose the extra weight. Just tell him you are determined to lose it and that you are confident you will and act confident about yourself and don't feel insecure because you are overweight. Your character is important. If he is not a shallow person he will meet you but it is always best to be honest and I hope he is  honest too and send you a photo and his real name and his address etc.. even if you are going to meet somewhere in public, which of course is the only place to meet someone whom one is meeting for a first time and don't lose the weight to impress a guy. Lose it either because you want to be fitter and healthier or just for yourself because you want to. 20 lbs in 2 months is too much. If you want to lose weight healty.. do some exercise.. walking and swimming and eat fruit, salads and chicken breast and not much junk food and no lemonade, rather drink flavored water that has few calories or tea or mineral water... do it only for your own health and for yourself to boost your own self esteem. The guy if he likes you will like you for y0urself ... and weight can always be lost a character can't be changed. A nice character is worth more as you really can't change your personality.. so just be yourself. x

good luck and just be yourself but honest.. about the weight. if it's a big issue to him don't worry then you haven't lost a lot in not meeting a shallow guy who only goes by appearances

Answer 6

guys are different than girls weight isn't that important to them when they see a overweight girl they think there personality will be nice (to be honest i don't know why) not all guys think this way but some do. and if he doesn't like you cuz your overweight it's his lose not yours

Answer 7

Well first excercise. Secondly don't freakin date people online?! Duh!

You feel like a loser because right now you are a loser but you can change that by doing something for yourself.

Answer 8

I'm fat and ugly and I can't get a date either.  The only chicks that will go out with me are fatter and uglier, or else foreign or non-white  (I'm white).or too old.  

Answer 9

You shouldnt feel like a loser AT ALL!!!! Everyone is beautiful in their own way. If you dont end up losing a couple pounds in 2 months dont stress!... Just be confident thats all it takes for someone  to take their eyes off your waist and weight. honestly just be confident and he wont even notice it.