I want to more friendly with my mum?

Question

My mum and i usually fight alot, i try my hardest not to start yelling but she annoys me and i get easily annoyed. I want us to be happy and be able to talk about anything, we are already fairly close but i want to stop the fights and i want to know how to be more open with her, i get embarresed with personal stuff even though shes my real mum.

pleasssse help :)

Answer 1

actually no one likes to fight

the best thing is listen and let it go

stay cool yaar

Answer 2

To be honest, i was the exact same with my mum, I felt i couldn't tell her anything, and I think part of the anger and fighting is because lack of trust and communication.

If you tell your mum something really important that you havent told her (e.g. you're having s*x with your boyfriend) or just something simple thats worrying you (e.g. school, friends etc.) then she'll feel like you can trust her and so think alot more of you.

And this way you can be more open with her about alot of things, and the two of you will guaranteed get on alot better.

I hope this advice helped, I did it and it helped me alot, because now I can talk to my mum about anything.

x

Answer 3

well I'd start off by saying "i love you mum". And whatever she says, even if she's sarcastic, don't let that anger you: she obviously thinks from the past that you want something. Be caring and give her a hug and tell her how you feel, that you're sorry you always get so annoyed and that it's your nature, and tell her you just don't want to fight anymore...

Answer 4

How about you and her have a mother daughter day every month. You both can shop at the malls or go whereever and just talk, have a nice lunch together and bond better.

Answer 5

I think everyone's pretty much covered everything!  

I'll reconfirm it though.  All any mum really wants is to be able to talk to their teenage daughter the way they used to.

Have little chats with her, ask her about her day and tell her about yours etc.  

You're probably feeling embarrassed about personal stuff, because you're not sure how she will react when you bring them up.  Maybe start with something simple like "I've got period cramps - do you get them mum?", if she says yes, then you could ask her what she does to feel better -  stuff like that - it's not going to start a fight, and you'll be able to gauge how she reacts to you bringing up stuff like that.

Also, I agree with the others who say you should try and organise some special time with your mum! If you two fight over stuff like clothes then avoid clothes shopping!!!!!  Maybe go have lunch somewhere, or go see a movie (unless you both fight about movies too LOL).

Try to avoid conversations about things you know will start arguments, and remember - she's your mum, you need to respect her and it's only going to make things worse if you scream back at her.

I almost had an aneurysm holding in my anger sometimes when I was a teenager, but it was worth it to be able to have a good relationship with my mum :)

Answer 6

Very natural because you are finding yourself so it is hard sometimes.  

Try to ask if she would like to watch a movie w/ you or go shopping or to lunch or something together, she will think you are up to something at first maybe but if you do something w/ her once a week it will become a nice time to share, growing your relationship to be more comfortable and later you can tell her how nice it is to spend time w/ her but you do need to remember she is your mother and knows what is best for you so she can't be your best friend all the time.  

As nice as Gilmore Girl is reality doesn't always come that easy and parenting is hard so give her a break too. ;~)

Nice of you to make the effort

Answer 7

ok.

you have the EXACT same relationship as i have with my mother!

wow...

ok. well i'll try and help...

1. take deep breathes when you feel annoyed (i also get easily annoyed)

2. take some quality time with your mother and talk about things that are really bothering you, that way you get become closer and tell eacher whats on your minds.

3. tell your mum how you feel about your relationship with her and your fighting with her

hope ive helped!

my method has started to work with my relationship with my mum

Answer 8

Hi T

You sound just like my sister are you sure you are not her. I would think the best thing to do is just stay calm. Mom and you know how to get each other annoyed , so the best thing to do is chance how you feel inside. Try looking at things from her point for a few minutes or saying do we have to yell. If she starts to yell stay calm.