I want to move out as soon as I'm 18; my mom refuses to let me go.

Question

I want to move out of my parent's as SOON as I turn 18. (I'm sick of them) but my mother says she won't let me? Can she do that?

I thought once you were an adult you were legal and have all rights to live on your own [in this case, with my BF]. But she says she's not going to let me go until I graduate but that won't be until a few more years after i'm 18.

I've talked to her about this but she gets really mad about it..

What can I/should I do???

Answer 1

She can't stop you! You are officially an adult when you turn 18 and she can't control you anymore! Just leave. That's all you have to do. Your mom might not like it, but it's up to you to start your life.

Answer 2

when you're 18 she has no choice ,

you're no longer a minor ,

If you want to move out there's nothing she can do about it.  

Answer 3

You can leave as soon as you turn 18. But try listening to your mom's reasoning for why she wants you to stay until you graduate. You might think it's for the best. Also, maybe you should think of a plan for what you will do if you and your BF are living together but then you break up and you'll be out on your own completely and you might end up back at your mom's and she'll just be there saying I told you so. So don't rush into it, that's my advice.  

Answer 4

i'm not sure what you CAN do, but you SHOULD just grin and bear it until after graduation. it is a HUUUUUGE world outside your parent's walls. do you have any hopes for college? having an apartment, plus paying for car/phones/utilities can get quite expensive over student loans/books/etc WHILE having a job to pay for it all... much less having to get things for an apartment - bed, microwave, plates, cups, etc.. it adds up QUICK.

most kids (teens) take for granted that their parent's usually pay for car insurance, utilities, phones (where as, i bought my car outright so no monthly payment) but my parent's paid my insurance if i kept a job. i paid for my own gas, cell phone, clothes, etc since i hit 17 with a driver's license.

i dont know ur current situation (if theres verbal/physical abuse with the parents) in which case, get outta there! you just have to make sure you can hold a steady paying job to be able to pay for EVERYTHING on your own (with your b/f) and still plan to have a healthy future. i really do wish you the best, i think you need to think about this a little harder and make sure you have all your ducks (and more) in a row before you make such a harsh decision..

Answer 5

its your choice!as soon as ur 18 ur an adult and she cant stop u from leaving...

Answer 6

If there is a child support or custody situation in which you are to be covered until you graduate by one or both parents, then I can see her point. Many insurance companies will only cover a dependent over 18 if they are a student. moving out could mess that up. She may also worry about you s******g up the rest of your life somehow. It's what moms do. You are an adult, however. Make an adult decision by thinking about what's best for everyone. Good luck

Answer 7

she can not tell you that you can not leave but she can refuse to help you pay for anything..

Answer 8

Once you're of legal age then you may choose to move out of your parent's home - just be prepared to face the consequences.

In addition to paying rent you'll also have utilities, household bills, insurance (you'll no longer be covered by your parent's car or health insurance), possibly a car payment, and any personal expenses (cell phones, going out, etc).

Also, if your parents are paying for your college then they may choose to no longer do so if you move out. Even if you are living with them they are under no obligation to pay for your schooling.

Answer 9

move out and go far away,

in my case its completely different

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Answer 10

Once you are of legal age, she cannot make you stay. My mom didn't want me to go either, but also knew I was growing up and I had to start making my own decisions. My only advice is to be sure you are good and ready for the responsibility. You know, be able to provide for yourself and such. Otherwise, if you leave before that, you will only end up back at your mom's. Good luck to you!

Answer 11

She can not stop you from leaving but she can stop any other kind of assistance they may give to you including school tuition.

Once you are 18 you can legally move out of the house - no matter what the parents say.

Answer 12

There are so many things to think about first, your mom just wants you to stay because she wants to make sure that you graduate, another is cause it is a bad idea to move in with your boyfriend, live life to the fullest, if you do move in with him, just make sure that with the money you make doing whatever you do can pay the bills that you have all by yourself, if you need someones help, what are you going to do if you and him break up, i mean am sure he not going to be paying for your bills no more, make sure to always be independent. Never depend on a guy, that is the worst thing that you can do. I am 18 and i moved out of my moms house 3 months ago, am doing perfectly fine, and i am also supporting my older sister that is pregnant, she is 20. Think about it first! : )

Answer 13

in certain states your parents have legal guardianship of u until ur 19(ex. AL) but at 18 you can join the military or get married(not suggesting if its not for you) some states its 18. good luck either way

Answer 14

she CANT do that. no matter what. u have complete rites to move out after 18. wats her reason for it anyway??

Answer 15

Heya

At 18 you can do what ever you want , she cant stop you. You should just sit her down and talk about it to her calmly .

=] x*x

Answer 16

You are an adult at eighteen. You can move out on your own, and nobody can stop you.

The flip side of that is this: You are now an adult. Your parents' obligations to you are now legally and morally ENDED. Anything you get from them from now on, in terms of food, shelter, financial help, etc., is strictly up to them, and will be given on their terms, not yours.  Nobody, not you, not the law, can make them do anything else.

If my college-age daughter insisted on shacking up with her boyfriend, I'd tell her to get her college tuition from him. If they're going to play "married", they might as well play it to the max.

Answer 17

Your mother can't do a thing about it...when you turn eighteen, you can just pack up your bags and say bye.

But...honestly...why would you want to do that? I just turned eighteen a few days ago and I know that I have the power to do things, but why would I do that? I don't know very much about what it's like to live out on your own, have all of these responsibilities, pay bills, work full-time...I'm not even done college yet! Also...being EMOTIONALLY ready is a major thing...

So...think about it again and really ask yourself if it's worth it...you may even break up with your boyfriend and then you have to move out of the apartment, but maybe your parents won't let you back in...think before you act.

Answer 18

You have every legal right to leave your home at 18. She cannot keep you at home. But if she is paying for your schooling, you should have a moral obligation to respect her wishes.

Answer 19

how can she stop u?

Answer 20

Legally she can't stop you.  If you wanna move out at 18yo then just do it.

She will whine and moan probably but she can't stop you.