I want to move out when i am 18, but i am scared?

Question

I'm scared i won't have the money to support myself financially.

so i want to know what are some amazing paying jobs in new york?

also what can i do to start saving money now?

I can't live with my parents anymore because i am sick of them, they tire me and always argue, i am not used to living with people who have to yell just to get their points across, and living with someone who is willing to put someone else down just to makeselves feel better

my dad and mom constantly call me:

a piece of c**p and tell me i will never amount to nothing and that i'm not worth c**p.

I can't deal with this anymore it tires me and makes me cry all of the time.

what did i do to deserve parents who treat their child like c**p

Answer 1

I totally understand your dilemma.  I am 19.

My parents have been this way that you just described since I was BORN.  I've listened to them fight incessantly, and have been caught in the middle all my life.

But, dear, I'm telling you this in all seriousness:  It is not a good idea to leave so soon.  It is hard to make it on your own, especially these days with the costs of EVERYTHING at a ridiculous level. I can't even imagine prices in New York (I'm in PA and the prices are bad, but people come from NY and tell me the prices here are awesome.)  Stick it out as long as you can and sock away as much money as you possibly can.

Having said that: Get a newspaper each week, look for jobs.

Chances are you won't get an amazing paying job off the bat, and it's completely unrealistic to think that you will.  Especially with no extra education or other job experience.  Start out at and okay, even medicore paying job.  If you wait around for an amazing job you won't ever get anywhere.  Get a job that'll due, and keep your eyes open for a better one.  That way you'll slowly be saving, whilst on the prowl for a better job.

But most important:  try to ignore them, hun. it won't last forever.  you're better than them.  hang in there.

I still live at home.  I have a boyfriend who does as well, in the same situation.  We're socking away money, to hopefully leave some day and make a good start in the world.  But no good will come of rushing it.

Answer 2

its not your fault that your parents do that. that is completely stupid that they do. I would get a good job at a nice-ish restaurant (tip money can be insane!) Go to hospitals and apply for jobs as an orderly or something like that. Make a budget and get an apartment with a roomate (you can probably find one on craigslist) If you're going to college, the cost of living will change. Just keep saving money and when your crazy parents tell you that you're worth nothing, sit down with them and ask them why they think that. Good luck! :)  

Answer 3

You have to find roommates and get an inexpensive apt. so you can afford to pay your part of the bills and rent.  If oyu have 2 or 3 roomates, the rent ought to be cheap between all of you. Work now to save money while you don't have any bills. When I was 18, I was a cashier, i couldn't find anywhere else that would hire me without any work experience. Good luck!  You deserve a good life!

Answer 4

I would strongly suggest that you start with the local community college... they have 2-year vocational programs that will get you ready for decent paying jobs.  

You can work part-time while putting yourself through such a program, which will keep you effectively out of sniping distance, and then launch out of there when you land your first job. Even if that means you need to network a roommate situation.

If you are not working after school now, you will need to... in order to move out, you will need first and last month's rent and a deposit for most apartments, and you may have to put down deposits for your utilities. Consider putting together a "hope chest"... a collection of household items you will need when you move out... shop the sales and store it in your closet.

If you insist New York has it for you, then start looking at the want-ads on line to see what jobs are in highest demand and the kinds of salaries are offered, then start comparing rental rates for modest apartments within stomping range. A lot of times there is a huge disconnect between the two that makes it impractical.

Quit listening to your parents... make a real plan for yourself and start working that plan.

Answer 5

that sucks for sure. Start planning now and look for others that will want to room with you and share expenses. that is how most young people have to do it to make ends meet.

Answer 6

don't be scared,  you will be ok.  I'm not in the  US but  you will find some extra work after school, if you still school.  To save some money than when ever you have some money put it away, and think that will be   for your  peaceful  life when no one will yelling at you anymore!  Good luck!