I want to move schools cause of a gosssip!?

Question

I have this big problem that i don't know what to do@This is the worst start for my 2nd year of high school, but i think some 3rd year students know a gossip about me and this boy i used to have big crush on, then when he asked me out the girls that were obsessed about him started to cause trouble to the my friend who tried to hook up with him. So i backed off because truthfully i didnt like all this trouble and this was all last year. And now the word has gotten to a few more 3rd year people and it was just when i thought'd i have a fresh new start, now i want to move to a school where i would have a frsh start, but i don't want to leave a friend, what should i do?

Answer 1

don't move to another school!!!! stay there itself i mean the most theycan do is gossip more but who cares. those 3rds yr students are just jobless. stand up for yourself girl...ignore them for a while they might stop it after a while, if that doesnt work then showw them whos boss...say sm ****..after that they'll stop for sure... but since they are 3rd yr students just try ignoring them..

this will work for sure...

Answer 2

It won't help to run away.

School is for learning, and gossip is everywhere.

Some of the most important things you learn will be between classes.

What has this exercise in socialization taught you?

Answer 3

Hey just bcause the 3rd years gossip about you ,it doesnt mean that you have to change schools.Just ignore them and remain cool

Answer 4

Are you sure you really want to move schools?

That might just make everyone think the rumour was true.

Im sure your friends will support you through it, but dont get majorly defensive about things that arent true, that will just satisfy them.

I dont know what the issue is exactly, but at this point, i think you should try to tough it out with your girlfriends :)

Answer 5

A lot of people use what is called the "geographical cure" to solve their problems.  Sometimes it works, but mostly it doesn't.  When you move, you take all your emotional garbage with you which you can hide for awhile.  But in time it usually comes back to you and the cycle has started all over again.

The best decision is to figure out a way to confront and deal with the situation right now using fearlessness, honesty and compassion, both to yourself and others.

However, in the end, if you decide that moving is really the best decision, then do it, remembering what I initially stated.

Answer 6

Man - high-school sucks doesn't it.  First and foremost stop beating yourself up.  I lost the love of my life because I backed off over stupid gossip - and dare I say I was much older than you are.

The lesson I learned.  There are no such thing as new starts - just a "line in the sand" where we decide to be more mature about things.  I know its easy for me to say so - but believe me its the only solution.  Lets say you move school - do you think there's a chance that no one in the new school knows anyone in your current school?

There is a saying, "it could be worse they may not talk about you".

That such gossip is hurtful goes without saying.  That we allow it to interfere with our life is in part our decision.  The only thing I can suggest is you put on an act that its not getting to you; as I said to my Daughter - you like drama - then pretend it's a role - a minute or two here and there is all it takes.  You don't have to act in class focus on school work - just those few hours as you go and come from school, during breaks etc. - home should always be a place where you feel at peace.

As for your friend - why should you leave?  Friends stick together through thick and thin.  They support each other, confide in each other and when all this is in the past will laugh together over it as it made the friendship stronger.