I want to quit volleyball that ive played for 8 years i am now in college and my parents are furious HELP!?

Question

So, I'm a freshman in college and no longer love volleyball. I tried to explain myself to my parents and they flipped out and told me i would be an embarassment and such. I am emotionally and physically distruaght and have come to the point where I am sick about it. I have not slept. Please help me!

Answer 1

I've been through the same thing recently. I'm still in high school, but I had tryouts. Halfway through tryouts, after I'd found out that I was one of the top choices for varsity, I decided against my better judgement to throw tryouts, and got myself cut. My parents were both shocked to find out that it was all my doing, that I had thrown it all away and was ready to quit. My dad stopped talking to me for about a week, but he eventually got over it. My mom was ok with it the whole time because she knew how much v-ball tore me up physically and mentally and wanted me to be happy.

My advice to you is to do what's best for yourself, don't let your parents control your judgement.

Answer 2

wow i don't know how you can just quit loving volleyball.

Maybe your parents are just upset because they finacially and timewise supported you for 8yrs on something that maybe you're good at. and then you just want to give up. i prob. would be. Just explain to them you want to start making your own decisons now, that you want to take the things you learned from vball and concentrate them somewhere else. They'll eventually get over it.

Answer 3

I’m assuming you’re not good enough or don’t wish to go pro. It may be something they want, and think you can achieve.

Now if it’s you parents paying the dime. Then you need to explain how much time volleyball takes from your college schedule and that you feel volleyball would take away from your education. The education they are paying so much for, you felt it wouldn’t be fair to them for you to waste time and money playing volleyball. Especially since its very difficult and expensive to go pro, and without a good college education you wouldn’t have anything to fall back on if volleyball doesn’t work out. You might have to give in and take volleyball; after all you’re not paying for college. Look at it like an employer, employee relationship, they are the employer and you’re the employee, you might not like the decisions being made, but you have to go along with it.

If that doesn’t work and you are on you own, (you’re paying for everything) then you need to tell them tell them I’m sorry but, I have other new interests in my life and I’m no longer wish to play volleyball. If they keep it up, miss the next holiday, and explain because of their continued harping about volleyball, you decided to spend the holiday someplace where you won’t be made to feel unwanted and unloved.

It might be hard but at some point you need to cut the apron strings and grow up, whether your parents want you too or not. It’s going to be hard, but being an adult isn’t easy.

Hoped it helped and good luck

Answer 4

I do not see anyone suggesting that you talk with your current coach.  I would suggest that you talk with your college coach and see what they say.

I also saw no mention of a volleyball scholarship.  If  your parents paid for all those years of club and lessons so that you could get a scholarship and now you are dropping the scholarship, you can see why they might be upset.  Paying for all those years of club and then having to pay for 4 years of college would be upsetting.  

I might take a day or two before I talked with my parents if

were that upset.  Try to stay calm and rational.  (I know-easier said than done.)

Answer 5

I was in the same situation with wrestling.  My old man was trying to live his past and "what would've been" through me.  I decided to wrestle D-1 and ended up losing the passion for competition at that level, although I still enjoy the sport.  If I would have made a decision on my own and what I felt I would have played football and would've been happier.  You have to realize that you're an adult and capable of making your own decisions, as your parents need to realize.  Your parents should be happy with your decision to pursue college and further academics so that you can pursue a career of your choice without settling for "just a job".

Answer 6

First, calm down and don't argue with your parents right now. There is no need to fight for your rights at this point.

Find some pieces of paper and write down all those reasons that forced you out of your 8-year-"career", and those reasons that your parents might have put together.

Find someone you can trust and ask her/him to help you sort out everything on your paper, if you are still so emotional.

You might realize that you almost made a mistake when trying to quit volleyball (I can't help to say that as I love volleyball so much)... or if not, set up a meeting with your parents and let them know how you have reached your final decision. Tell them that you didn't mean to totally quit but you just don't have that much time to do it when you have to focus on your academic study, tell them volleyball was "just" a shuttle bus to get you into the college and you never loved the sports although you had been showing potential, tell them that you have other plans to make them feel more proud of you.

Being a father and having been strict with my boy, I know I have been trying to raise the standard and help him achieve something that he doesn't feel possible... but the bottom-line is I have been hoping that my boy can live a better life, and be happy with the idea that he always has someone supporting him... I believe that your parents would only do better than what I have been doing.

Hope this helps.

Answer 7

Tell your parents how you feel. if they dont understand tell them its your life and you can do what you want with it.

DOnt be upset. Your parents ought to not yell at you for something like that