I want to run and never look back sometimes?

Question

ok, first i want to start with i love my kids. so no mean people need to read further. what advise do you have when you wake up and your kids are already fighting, breakfast is burned, the house is a mess, the dog pooped on the floor, your husband is driving you nuts. anyway you get the picture. i tried leaving and getting a pedicure, which was nice but i still had to come home. i just lost it and i am horrible for the rest of the day. i seem to loose it and cant get back to calmness. oh ya time out for everyone only works for the time out time. anygood advise on keeping your sanity

Answer 1

I think you should sit your kids down and explain to them what it means to be stressed out. Tell them that being stressed all the time can raise your blood pressure. Explain to them what blood pressure is and how you could have a heart attack. Explain to them what a heart attack is and how serious it is not to be constantly stressed out because it can lead to several health problems. Ask your kids what you could do to make the home a happier, more problem free place to be and then ask them what they could do to make it that way as well. Ask your kids what it is they fight about and how they could prevent the fights from even starting in the first place. Arrange for your kids to stay with your or your husband's parents for a few days while you and your husband have some alone time to talk about why you two got married and wanted to have kids. Remind yourself of all the great things you have experienced being a mother and a wife.

I hope this helped! :D

Answer 2

Time to start purging the things that are cluttering your house and your life.  If it is in the way and you don't need it, then toss it.  

Go simple with breakfast.  Go with bagels or english muffin and spread.  Cup of tea or coffee.  Cereal, muffins, toast and butter or jelly.  2 choices of juice.  Fresh fruit cut up.  Or make a fruit smoothie.  Save the stove and your pot and pans for the weekends when you have time to concentrate on making hot breakfast.

Choose one day in the week where you can have at least 2 hours to yourself for either cup of coffee with a friend or another trip to the salon.

Answer 3

you wake up and your kids are already fighting, (put them in a safe place, their rooms are a good option)

breakfast is burned, (cereal, moms best friend)

the house is a mess, (go to FLYlady.net, hit the hotspots)

the dog pooped on the floor, (put the dog outside, consider getting a cat)

your husband is driving you nuts. (say, in a kind and gentle voice: "if you value your (life, p***s, face, etc) you will get the F*** out of my (face, house, etc))

you cant keep your sanity. its not possible, unless you knock them all out. that is not advisable, and can get you a vacation at the courthouse ;Þ

I know FLYlady can help you. getting something, anything under control will help other things follow. plus, you can run away to your room when you have to, and not feel bad, because it will be clean.

baby steps. before you know it your kids will be cleaning before thinking about it, and that will keep them busy, you happy, and less stressed.

but alas, for sanity is a long ways off.  

Answer 4

Zololoft and knowing housework will always exist,  dogs p**p (my two dogs had massive diareaha ALL over the rugs for three straight days) and siblings fight.  I love my husband but he is  lazy with helping around the house-----

We had a house fire five days before our baby came then a flood due to exposed water pipes freezing - the fire destroyed our garage and the flood destroyed our kitchen.  S&*T happens and we as  women need to take it all in stride as even in a perfect world, laundry will build up, toilets need to be cleaned and dinner needs to be cooked.  i keep my sanity and sense of humor knowing that my husband would be sucking his thumb laying in the fetal position if he had to raise a child AND maintain the house----all while trying to shower and pluck my eyebrows...just remind yourself that it could be worse - and you are blessed to have a normally dysfunctional family!

Answer 5

yep, school, and grandmas house LOL

Answer 6

We all do... Ahh times were simpler when we were told how to feel and when to feel it. Just remember every responsibility has a benefit and good times are when we make em.

Answer 7

First of all, you're not alone. All of us have chaos and no family is perfect. My advise would be to tackle one thing at a time and pretend like nothing else exists. Make a decision to handle the most urgent issue first, in this case the dog p**p. I can imagine delegating to the kids isn't an option, so I'd advise telling the husband to take care of it. If he's driving you nuts this would be a good punishment, right?

Then tackle the next issue and the next one. Take baby steps into getting your chaotic house back in order one thing at a time. When I feel myself about to lose my mind because there is way to much craziness going on at once I tell my husband, "I'm clocking out!" and I lock myself in my room or bathroom with a book, magazine, something to take my mind off of things. Once I'm calm I head back out into the house and see if I can get a handle on things.

Don't let this stuff ruin your day. You cannot let things out of your control ruin your mood. Take it one step at a time and take a break when you need to.