I want to run away i dont want to be here there is no fun theres nothing good about being here?

Question

im 16 year old girl

and dont get along with any of my family

my friend just stole my best friend who was pretty much a boyfriend

my other friend just jokes about everything

and apart from that i dont have any other close friends that i can really talk to.

i just quit rowing that was my dream when i was young.

my parents dont even know what im like and dont care about me

cause they are too busy looking after my sister who is clinically severely depressed and last week overdosed for the third time.

my life is just generally falling to pieces and i have no one to turn to

i dont enjoy much any more and i would prefer to sleep

but i cant sleep either

school is fine.. but i get behind cause i dont do homework

just any suggestion on what i can do?

this is kinda just me letting everything out and trying desperately to find some sort of support from a group of anoymus strangers

Answer 1

your age is a terrible age sometimes.It is so easy to get confused and feel left out.Your parents haven't abandoned you.All there energy is focused on your sister is just the one who needs their help the most at this moment.They seem to care a lot about your family or they wouldn't bother with your sister.A friend who takes away another friend wasn't really your friend to begin with.Your other friend who jokes about everything is probably just covering up the way they really feel by using humour.Why did you give up your dream?The rowing team is probably the best thing for you.A group of people your age that share the same interests as you is just what you need at the moment,plus the physical side of the sport is a good out le for your energy.If you need help the counsellor at your school is a good place to start.Their experience and training will help you cope and they will put you in contact with the right people who understand what you are going through.Please don't give up hope and your dreams...good luck and god bless....

Answer 2

Well.. running away is defiantly not a good idea as nothing ever good comes from it.

Have you tried to talk to your parents about how you feel?  They may not realize that you need attention too because they are so busy and preoccupied with looking after your suicidal sister.  You need to let them know that even though you aren't suicidal that you need love and attention too.  Do you have an aunt, uncle, Grandma that you are close too?  Someone that you could talk too and maybe help you talk to your parents?  

You are so young and have so much life left.  I know losing friends can feel horrible.. but start looking for a new group.  If you love rowing then try finding a group in the area that is interested.  Search the internet for rowing clubs, or even search Myspace or Facebook for people geographically close to you that share the same interests as you.  Just get out there!  Be young and don't fret over the friends you lost!  If they acted that way then they weren't good enough for you anyway.  I heard a quote the other day that I think applies to this situation...

"Sometimes we fight for the people who have left and forget about the people who are still here"   - Bishop T.D. Jakes

Lots of luck to you.  

Answer 3

can i ask what star sign you are? have you moved in the past? are you a virgo or a capricorn? I can't say much from this position on earth, but you've really got a long, winding, colourful and great road to travel on.

Girl, u just won the jackpot! The sperm and the egg made you! Not all sperm survive through the acidic cervical cryts, but yours did! Lucky you!

Life is a state of mind - that is really it. If you get up in the morning and feel a certain way, don't get out of bed until you actively MAKE YOURSELF feel happy. Start by looking at every object in the room and saying thankyou for all of them. Thank your parents (in your mind if you can't say it to them) for life. And girl, I hope I don't come across too sensitive, but get back on that dating wagon... NOW! There are plenty of fish in the sea - believe me. Those legs make you walk, hands make you do stuff, your mind thinks you into anything you want, and we even have planes, trains and automobiles to help us out! How lucky are we!

As far as I can see, from what you've written, you have shown us your loyal and kind heart... Once again, I ask you... were these people worthy in the first place?

Every person offers a different world. You are alone from day 1 on this planet.. it is your experience and nobody elses, and you will have the opportunity to share it with another - just make sure it is with someone who is worthy.

Do you like to join groups to do stuff? (e.g. girl guides, travel groups.. that kind of stuff?) Do you like to travel? Do you like to set exciting goals? How about setting a goal to travel somewhere exciting? Are you creative? Do you like art? Music? Film? There is so much out there. Is there a specific culture that excites you? These are the things I usually ask myself when I am in the same situation.

I know that life is going to get better for you, and your mind and heart will grow stronger with wisdom over time! Nothing ever stays bad forever!

Take care and best of luck 2 u! :-)

Answer 4

Running away isnt fun either and wont be god for your future. just stick it out. why not start rowing again, you are never too young. try to talk seriously to your jokey friend. your parents are obviously under so much pressure, try to think of them, but also let them know how you are feeling. do your homework, and you'll be fine. it's because you are worried that you cant sleep try writing down ur 3 main worries each day and try to sort them out?

Good Luck x x x  

Answer 5

just relax.your parents maybe don't have time for you but it doesn't mean they don't care about you..it's just that your sister needs more attention..

submit yourself to the Lord in that way you can know what you can do. you're too young.live life! and do your homeworks.

good luck!  

Answer 6

Honey running away is not going to make anything better . Try and talk to someone who can help you with these problems . Running away will not make the problems go away , they will always be there even if you are away from these people . Trust me the world is much crueler and hateful so stay where you are and try to change the way you think . Good Luck !  

Answer 7

Well, you are an teenager. your Hormones are going crazy. i know you may think your alone and your family doesnt care about you, but its not true. most of the time people your age feel that way because you your parents are at work and probably working on their own issues. then you have people that are your age, but they are also going through their own identity crisis, although they may handle it and act out differently than you may dont let it get you down( the dipressions of teenage life) go shopping, try and get a little part time job, and focus on your studies! i went through everything you are going through, i had a child at 17 becuase i felt like i had nothing to call my own. Just smile, try too do things that will keep your mind occupied. Paint, swim, write, run, read. Do new things that you may not normally do, you may just find something that helps you find happiness! im also a July 23. So I know how you feel!!!!!

Answer 8

I can really hear you.  And, I am listening.

I am glad that you speak out and reaching out, that you are fully in touch with your feelings and your thoughts... and that you understand the situation.

These are great qualities.

It sounds like you are a great junction in your life and high walls are surrounding you.  Some called this a 'void'.  

A void is not necessarily a bad place to be. It gives us great opportunityto review our lives and really focus on what we want.  

Rather than dwelling on how bad things are and what had come to an end; it is a great time to look at what you really want in your life and how you want things to be.  Not in the way that you stay feeling bad and feel sorry for yourself for long.. but more like a little day dream as to what next?

>Closer 'Quality friends' & 'True' friends will come...  prepare for them & have room in your heart for them.

>Do your home work and concentrate on study... this will help you seize opportunities and prepare you for thye future YOU want.

>If a boy can be 'stolen' by a friend... neither are good enough for you.  Good riddence and let them go.  Count your blessings now that things came to light before you are even more attached.

>Be honest to yourself why you quit rowing even though it was your dream?  Is it because you don't think this dream can become reality?  Circumstances ? (if it is circumstances, you don't need to drop the dream...  it is just a pause)  Do you have a better goal you would like more?

>Do a good deed each day!  Feed your heart by making someone's day.  Be it a little jesture, a thank you, a heart warming message etc.  Show the world and yourself there are goodness in the world.  Never mind what other people do nor think, you are going to add a little love to the world each day.

A great book to read (perhaps a little too adult like wording for 16, but a great book with soothing energy non-the-less) is Mark Epstein :  "Going to pieces without falling apart" .

Another good one I read when going through a very rough patch at your age (& it had transformed my life) is Richard Bach : ILLUSIONS.

When people feel they are not in control of their own lives, they tend to try to limit or divert the attention onto some one else.  It isn't right but it happens a lot.  

From your addtional note :  I would say that you have much more strength, resilience, wisdom & other great qualities you are not aware of nor acknowldge in yourself.  It is time to find those.  These people are actually scared of you!

I do hope you come through this early rite of passage with much love for life still in your heart.

Feel free to email me, if you would like to.

Take care now.

Answer 9

i totally understand how u feel hun cuz im in the same situation. it truely hurts gradually by way even didnt notice.

btw im 18.  things seem to get abit better since i got my bf, maybe u just need sumone truely love u nd cud give u hope for life.

well dont really know wat to say cuz or else id throw allll those c**p here nd it might take DAYS to do so..anyway good luck, u can talk to me any time u want :))

Answer 10

hey, its okay - be strong. i got kicked out at 16 also i was in and out of home and i was mainly living in refuges and at friends places - if you do decide to run have you got a frien or other family? i didnt cause they all in other country so look up refuges in your area - i amin australia so i dont know where they may be for you - what i did was go on google and typed refuges and my area - they are a good starting place cause there is always someone there to talki to and help you- what they do is help you to live on your own so you can leave home better - and the best part is that if you want you will be left alone - it might be a good place to escape while things work themselves out - good luck

Answer 11

therapist or online support groups

Answer 12

ah to be 16 again. if you left...where would you go? you probably cannot support yourself when your 16 because you probably havent graduated high school let alone done anything for college.

if you left, most likely you would end up right back where your at right now so really its not worth it.

Sounds like you like rowing, why dont you just go and do that? Try to do something that entails that.

Maybe instead of worrying so much about yourself, try doing something for someone else? That usually can fill that need of accomplishment in your life.

Just a thought...think others, not you and you will find happiness.

Good luck

Answer 13

Where exactly are you running away 2 lol youde need about 10k at least in the bank hun stick it out. I left home at 14 living with a boyfriend who was 17, Ive had a rough life. Stay home, go 2 school, get a college degree because unlike a "best friend" a degree cant be taken from you. You dont need some1 2 turn 2, turn 2 music or your pets because again unlike a person those 2 things will never turn against you.

Answer 14

don't run away. nothing good ever comes of it. if you want some one to talk to add me as a contact and email me. id love to try and help you out. I'm 15 and i have had many of the same problems.