I want to send a letter to a bully who made me quit my job as a special needs assistant. Please help me .?

Question

I would like to send her a letter to let her know how she has sabotaged my life. Even though she is a mean bully, I don't want to be a bully. I want her to be resposible and take ownership of her bully ways.

Answer 1

Why do you want to give this bully the satisfaction of what they did to you? Bullies feed on this sort of misery, you will only fuel their actions.

Bullies are usually victims themselves in some shape of form (bad upbringing / social skills / bullied themselves / insecurities... endless list).

You sat you quit your job because of this person, so you should send a letter to your employer, or the company that is in charge of them. If they are at the top, speak to a union or representative of a complaints commission. Not only should this person face disciplinary action, but they obviously need psychological help or counseling to help them to face their demons.

If this has affected you severely you need closure to move on. Seek help if necessary, but please move on and put this person out of your life, and the whole thing behind you.

Happy thoughts x

Answer 2

You are likely not going to want to hear this, but I have been in similar situations and have learned a couple of things I would like to share.

1) You cannot make someone "feel" a certain way or accept responsibility no matter what you do.

2) Please keep in mind that this person is very possibly going through her day totally oblivious to the fact that she is now in control of your emotions. You might want to ask yourself, "Self, why am I giving this person power over me by letting her control my emotions like this!?"

3) The sooner you are ready to accept 1 and 2 above, and move on, the happier you will be.

Best Wishes,

-jtd

P.S. Never, never, never write anything down when you are angry. You may regret it later.

Answer 3

What I did was send an email to my boss who was actually the bully and I carbon copied it to our big boss so that he knew what she was doing because I was the 7th person to quit becauseof her.

Answer 4

So, sending her a horse head is out, huh? I'd send a letter to her boss and copies to the superintendent, Civil rights, whoever you can think of. And make sure you put down at the bottom of each letter the other people you sent it too.And of course, send the little darling a copy of the complaint you sent to the others. If you make it to her personally, she may find that harassment. Believe me, when you write down at the bottom of each letter who else you've sent them too, they'll get to contacting you. They need to cover their booties.Now, don't get back, get even!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Write the letter to the boss over her instead. Leave emotions out of it, just stick to the facts.

Emotions will just make them ignore you.

This teacher could be violating some kind of ethics laws which you should also mention this in your letter.

Answer 6

I think it to little to late.  The bully has already done you in.  Move on with your life and forget it.  You should have taken action before you quit your job.  It's too late now.  The bully will never accept responsibility for your actions.  Besides, by venting your anger in writing you may incriminate yourself.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Giving the bully a letter of reproach is the wrong attack.  Let them know how their actions affected you.  The best approach is to go with a group of people to confront them.