I want to tell my mom i was molested a long time ago when i was really young by our neighbor...

Question

he lived across the street from us and wen i was in his house and used to play with his sister..but sumtimes wen she went to the bathroom and left the living room he would touch me on my private parts and then tell me to touch him back and wen i didnt he would force me to and i REALLY wanna tell my mom about this because we moved out of that neighborhood but he works at this store down the street from us now and im afraid because everytime i tell her something she makes it seem like it was my fault it happened and im scared because shes alwayz verbally abusing me and physically sometimes to and i dont kno how to tell her

Answer 1

u shud git help fast because that sounds exactly like tha e tru hollywood story about the girl who was stalked nd raped all her life nd then kidnappped luckily she was smart enough to help git herself found but if yer mom wont listen tell a counselor other parent teacher anything thatll be better then nothing tell everything about the guy itll help in the long run..not to scare u or anythingg

Answer 2

I am so sorry.and you should tell your mom to make you feel better and if she doesn't believe you or makes it seem like its your fault at least you tried.you should also report him to the police.even if you have no evidence they can probably make you feel safer.

Answer 3

ugh what a bad possition, by the way im sorry, um, u have to tell her ok cause it is going to build up inside if you dont get it out, u have to tell her its the only way to make u feel better and maby do somnethin about that a$$ hole!

Answer 4

I was once in this position too, only diff circumstances.  My mother cried at first when I told her, and then when it was brought up at a later date, it was if she forgot everything I told her and said that I should forgive this person, and that I never told her about it and so forth.  Now as an adult with children, I stress the importance to them that if ever they are touched in an inappropriate manner, I want them to tell somebody, even if it's not me they tell.  So If you feel you can't talk to your mom about this, at least talk to a school counselor about it, or an adult you trust.  They can turn him in and stop others from going through the same thing.  I know it takes a lot of courage, and from you posting this question, I can tell you are very courageous.  Tell somebody, anybody that will listen.  Lots of love and hugs, I'm so sorry you have had to go through anything of this nature.  It's so unfair.  I'll be praying for you.  Keep us all posted.

Answer 5

**** his *** up

Answer 6

I understand how hard it can be to tell people these sorts of this from personal experience. I had something similar happen to me. However I decided not to tell my mother because that person it now out of our lives for good and I didn't want to upset her for no reason.

However since this boy is still being forced to be a part of your life and neighbourhood I understand that you need to tell your mother.

Do you have an adult family friend that you can perhaps confide in first? Then you could both sit down and talk with your mother. It will be harder for her to just blame you straight away if there is another adult there to help you talk it through with her.

If this is not the case then just make sure you are prepared before you sit and talk to your mother. Write a list of all the things you want to tell her. I know it sounds silly but try to practice what you want to say as this will help you remember what you're doing when you get nervous.

Before you tell your mother say something like "I need to tell you something and it is very hard for me to talk about this. Please let me tell you everything and then I want to ask you how you feel about it" Hopefully this will stop her interrupting and give you a chance to explain how it isn't your fault to preempt her accusations.

I know this will be difficult for you so I wish you all the best and hope my advice helps you in some way.

Answer 7

omg =[

gurl you better get some help now!

qo on qooqle and stuff and search certain type of chat/help lines where you can talk to people about this stuff.

or at least tell someone in your family!

just know that you NEED to tell someone responsible and who you know will understand.

Answer 8

That's tough because if there's someone who should listen, understand and help, it's your mom. However if she still won't believe you then it'd be better to look for help somewhere else, someone who's trustworthy. Probably your guidance counselor could help, if your uncomfortable you try to confide in him/her about other problems/struggles that you might have and whatever he/she might come up from there you can weigh things, if she can help you or not. The same applies to other people whom you can ask for help. I might never know what you're going through but I know it can be uncomfortable for you to talk about your problem with other people. I really really hope and pray that you'll be able to find help the soonest. God bless

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear that. Anyway, tell your mom that problem. Tell her it really bother you.  If she ignore you find a family member that could listen and help you.  And he/she will be the one to explain your mom your problem.

Answer 10

Plzzzzz Listen to me baby...............speaking from experience.........

First off.......that "it was my fault" Syndrome needs to go! I wish you could have give a lil more detail as far as the ages,buts thats okay. & the Nasty A** Molester.....the fact that he "forced you to touch him....after "VIOLATING" you, wether through Manipulation, or the pre-meditated plan......displays more than just a pedophile (wich to me is the worst, nastiest,DISGUSTING,human being on this earth) he also presents the capability's of being or becoming a "rapist".................You listen to me & DO NOT EVER>>>>NEVER>>>>EVER feel it was your fault or let someone make you feel as if so!!! Start a journal of some sort....like a log & jot down to the best of your memory the dates, times, & instances in wich they accured...even if the dates aren't clear...mention the whether, it might help.....after every instance you log......write down your feelings, confusion,or whatever comes to your heart or mind..........

I hate to advise you not to go to your mother first...but it sounds like she may be going through "stuff" of her own.......because by ALL MEANS in a normality motherly, nurturing, situation like this....their would absoloutly be no judging or accusing on your behalf.......If  you feel that it is not an option, the best thing to do is........Simply go to your School counselor, & or teacher...or a "mentor" of some sort& explain who,what,& how.....along with your journal.........you will have ALL the Support you need,plus get that Nassty azz Serpent off the streets....& be a Registerd s*x OFFENDER"!!!!

I can't stess to you enough how important it is to stand up for your self right now.& REPORT HIM....if not it will HAUNT, & ROB you the rest of your life.......(your innocence has already been taking away) Don't let this Magget take more!!!!!!!!!!!