I wantto give up my kids? Is this possible?

Question

i have a total of 5 kids..i'm a single mom.. i can't handle all 5..I've tried for three years. I feel i'm 1 against them and i can't give each of them the attention and the expenses they need? Help!

Answer 1

Wow, you must be in a bad situation if you're seriously considering giving them up for adoption, do you really think you could do that? i bet you cant bear the though of giving them up, i know i could NOT give my kids up, kids need love and affection & if thats all you can give them well thats enough, if you cant buy them the best clothes and all the lastest gadgets then tough, your kids will respect you more for not buying them the best things rather than giving them away, you know you can get help from the government, i'm in the UK, guessing you are from US but im sure they have some sort of help they can offer, social services will take your kids on day trips, take them off you for a night to give you a break, you'll even get loads of free stuff, clothes & beds etc... they do this because kids are much better off with their natural parents, and make their father make a contribution aswell, he shouldn't get away with it, they are his kids as much as yours, good luck, and seriously have a good think about how you'd feel without them x x

Answer 2

You should have thought about that before you had them! They aren't just puppies you give away.  

Answer 3

child support

try contacting some charities

hang in there  

Answer 4

hey keep ur head up it only get better,it may seem easy saying it because it's not me,  we all have been  thereu have 2 some how find the joy in each of them,and stop looking 4 the down side.trust me ur not the only that has felt that way,and u sure wont b the last.each day look at it this way'i dont know what ur issue really is but someone is having it rougher than u.u just have to woman up and handle ur responsibility,and contenue taking care of ur babie's,because no matter what the ages they r,or the problem each may have,they r still urs.and trust and believe in God.......thats where ur help come from.sit them down and talk to them they will understand what mommie's going through,u cant leave them because God didn't leave u.keep ur head up girl.

Answer 5

where's the dad?? ask a judge tell him/her that you cant handle being a mother of five and you cant take care of them anymore. .... and i just want to say being in a house hold where the father doesnt care about his children and i hate him for that, why did you have all those kids if you dont want them??? should have kept your legs closed or used protection or abort or put up for adoption. you could of gotten help. but i am glad that your not physco like lots of other parents who do bad things. call cps and tell them you cant handle being a mother anymore.

Answer 6

YOU ARE SUCH A B****!!!!!  WHY DO YOU OPEN YOUR LEGS IF YOU'RE NOT GONNA BE RESPONSIBLE AND GIVE YOUR CHILDREN THE LOVE AND ATTENTION THEY DESERVE???!!!  PEOPLE LIKE YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE KIDS AT ALL, THEY'RE NOT OBJECTS THAT YOU GIVE AWAY IF YOU DON'T WANT THEM ANYMORE!  YOU SHOULD TRY TO GET HELP FROM ANYBODY, YOUR FAMILY THE GOVERNMENT OR ANYONE WHO'S WILLING TO HELP YOU!  GIVING YOUR CHILDREN AWAY SHOULD BE LAST LAST THING YOU SHOULD THINK ABOUT.  :(

Answer 7

You know, I really don't want to judge you but it's really hard not to.. I would think that after the first child you would have known how expensive a child is. It makes me so mad when I hear of these people that have so many kids and can't or don't want to take care of them.. Did you not learn anything after the first one, second one, third one, etc...??

You chose to have those babies, they didn't chose to be born to someone that all of the sudden wants to give them away because "she can't handle it". This question literally makes me sick. There are so many people out there (myself being one of them, had a miscarriage last december) that want children and can't have them.. Then to hear of people like you that can pop them out like there's no tomorrow and don't want them.. ugh. It would be one thing if you put them up for adoption when they were born.. but to want to give them up now?? How old are they?? Do you even know what that is going to do to them mentally.. d**n, you are the most selfish person I've ever come acrossed in my life.

Answer 8

What were you thinking when you had 5 kids? Didn't you consider all the expenses, and etc? I mean, after having the first kid, you should have a pretty clear idea...

Or did you just have babies cause they're so cute and now that you're tired of caring for them, you wanna give them away like puppies?

Your kids are people too, and they did not ask to be born, it was YOUR decision... and how are they supposed to feel when you give them away cause you're tired of raising them? It's like "Ok that was fun, now go away"???

Not everyone likes kids or wants them, and I respect that. But if you decided to have them, then at least give them the love they deserve, even if you can't give them enough attention, it is still MUCH better than abandoning them and scarring them emotionally (it happened to my friend, she still has major issues because of it).

And next time, try to THINK before you do something like popping out 5 kids with no means to support them.

Answer 9

thanks for contributing to global overpopulation a*****e

Answer 10

it's a big decision to give up your kids.  Do everything at all possible to try to support and keep them.  When you give them up it is final.  Know that you did everything in your power to keep them and make them happy.  Know that they would rather be with you, their real mom, than another couple that might be better off.  Know that they will appreciaite your sacrifices one day, even though that day might be far off.

if you really have tried everything (govt, friends, family)  make sure they get iwth a really nice family that willl let you stay in their lives.

and ps, you should find a guy who deserves you and wouldnt just give you and child and leave.

good luck

Answer 11

It's a matter of responsibility.  You have 5 children who love you unconditionally.  At the very least, they deserve the same from you. Children are a commitment, not an object to have and discard when you get tired of them. You're wanting 5 innocent children to pay for the bad decisions you made in the past.  Unfortunately, life doesn't work that way.Your only choice is to find a way to support them all.  I'm sure at least some of the kids have fathers.  Make them responsible. You don't have to do it alone.

Answer 12

THATS THE MOST DISGUSTING QUESTION I HAVE EBER HEARD- SOME WOMAN ARE BATTLING TO EVEN FALL PREGNANT AND YOU JUST WANT TO GIVE UP YOUR CHILDREN!!

YOU SHOULDNT HAVE HAD EVEN ONE IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Answer 13

I am also a mother of 5, and there's no way I could give up my kids. they need you. if they're unruly then try some family counseling, or boot camp. but it will scar your kids for life if you just give them up.

Answer 14

Hi

I don't know where you live but you should be able to find a number for social services or equivalent. they will be able to provide you with options.

you are not a bad mum. you are not neglectful mum. you are just probably exhausted and at the end of your tether and the last thing you need is to be judged ok?

I am happy to help or just listen if you need to talk. my email - [e-mail]

Answer 15

you cant handle them because you don't want to handle them . get a hold of the father or fathers and get some child support. what did you think was going to happen? this is why i believe in sterilization

Answer 16

ha ha ha ha ha, glad im not you but anyway, just hang in there for 18 more years and if your one of the lucky ones, they will be totally indpendent by that time............it may seem like a long time but think of it this way...........you will b 18 years closer to becommin a old lady and also try not to get knocked up again this always helps

Answer 17

I could never understand why people go ahead and do first and then think about it after ,,,, It should be the other way around ,,,,  Hind sight is evidently not a strong point with you if you keep getting yourself pregnant ,,,, Makes me wonder if you've ever resorted to abortions too ,,,,  A child doesn't ask to be born but once conceived he has every right to live and expect his parent(s) to do their level best to provide for them ,,,,This situation is not their fault it's yours ,,,, You didn't mention whether you are getting child support but if you are financially strapped it indicates that you aren't ,,,, You need to get off your back side and get something done about child support from how ever many men that are involved ,,,,

So now you want to give your children up ,,,, Does this mean just one or two ? ,,,, If so how are you going to decide which ones go and which ones stay or are you just going to split the whole brood up and give them all up to who ever and in what ever direction?,,,,This is a real heart breaker ,,,, Is this what your mother did with you ,,, If not then how do you think you'd feel if she did ?,,,,You did your dancing and now you have to pay the fiddler ,,,,  Actually where your options are concerned you shouldn't have any,,,, They should be taken away from you and you should be required to have your reproductive organs surgically altered to render you incapable of getting pregnant any more ,,,, You are going to live to TRULY regret this woman ,,,,Children grow up and they remember ,,,,  OH !! ,,,, By the way ,,,,  Happy birthday and merry Christmas ,,,,//

Answer 18

It's unfortunate that you would have 5 you couldn't support in the first place, but if it's in their best interests, put them up for adoption. It's better than all of you being homeless. I don't envy you for the choice you're going to have to make and what the ones you put up for adoption will think of you.

Answer 19

my dad beat my mom and she got away from him with no money and raised all of us (5 kids) on her own.. sometimes you need to try harder and do it.. if my mom can do it so can you! she did this while having 5 strokes and kidney cancer.. stand up and be a woman!!