I was adopted how can i find my mom?

Question

i was adopted when i was 2 weeks old closed adoption my adopted mom and dad said they dont know any information how can i even START to look for them?

Answer 1

well i am adopted but i found my real mom and dad when i was 11 and when i was little i always said to my adoptive parents i wanna go home even tho it was where i lived! i didnt even know i was adopted! till i was 6 they told me which i didn't understand of course..

But i found my mom and dad at bighugs :) it worked tho but sadly some people try and try and try but never find them..

Just hope girl keep trying

Answer 2

Your parents should know what state you were born in at the very least. They may know or have other details that could help, even if they don't remember...did they keep any records?

Maybe you'll be lucky and have been born in one of the few states with adoption records open to adoptees.

Answer 3

HI!

Heather and Laurie have both given you great advice! I am a first mother and encourage you to look as well. I know people like Tom up there love to discourage adoptees from thinking that they should search but I can tell you most of us first parents would love to have our children in our lives - even if only to know they are alive and be able to answer questions. Adoption does not mean we stop feeling like parents or loving our children.

I also wanted to share this bit of info with you:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/science/natur...

There are several DNA research projects going on and there have been adoptees who have successfully used them to help locate blood relatives. You may wish to research this option also since you have limited information to search with.

I wish you the very best of luck in your search and hope that you find everything you are looking for!

Answer 4

Firstly, Tom has no business telling you who you mom is or isn't.  As an adopted person, I consider both my adoptive parents and my first parents to be my moms and dads.  No one else can decide that for me in the non-legal sense.

I located my first family in a sealed records state.  It may not be the easiest thing to do, but it gets done every day.  That's why reopening access to our original birth records isn't about reunion -- reunions take place DESPITE sealed records.  Having an original birth record certainly can help if you want to find your first family.  However, open records are ultimately about equal treatment under the law.

At any rate, Heather had some very good information for you.  Write for your non-identifying information to the state of Nevada and information about the state's registry. You can also petition the court to receive a copy of your original birth certificate.  Your petition may be granted.  I know Nevadans who have had their petitions granted.  

There are birth indexes available that can possibly help, too.  Nevada, like California, has a birth index that can be accessed at ancestry.com (you can get a free 2 week trial membership.)  Sometimes, like in my case, a person may be listed under his or her birth information, even if later adopted.   This is how I got my information.

ETA:

I was just on Ancestry.com and realized that Nevada, although it has indexes for other life events there, does NOT have a birth index at Ancestry.    Sorry for the misinformation.

Also, I noticed that in Tom's response he stated that your mother would have to request to be contacted in order for you to do so.  This is not true.  There is no law stating that you cannot make contact with another person, unless you have a restraining order against you specifically naming that person.  In a couple of states that DO give adopted citizens their original birth certificates when they become adults, first parents have the option of stating whether or not they prefer to contacted.  This is the case in Oregon and Alabama, for example.

Answer 5

Good advice:

Heather & Laurie

Bad advice:

Tom

Come see us @

http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum

Good luck!

Every human deserves to know their history.  Ignore the naysayers!

Answer 6

i wish i can help but i cant

Answer 7

your MOM is the lady who has been there your whole life.

The women who gave birth to you can be locatated through a state agency or other similar service but ONLY if she has requested to be contacted.

Answer 8

Hiya.  I've just found my Mom after a 20 year search.  Hopefully it won't take you as long.

Which State or Country are you searching in?  If it's anywhere in the whole world except the USA you are entitled to your own birth and adoption records just like anyone else.  

However,  in the USA they hold on to dicriminatory laws that seal the records in all but 8 States, so things are a bit more difficult.  People find each other sealed records or no sealed records - so don't be disuaded.  

You'll also hear alot of negativity about searching so you'll have to turn a deaf ear sometimes and just remember it is your absolute right to know who you are and where you came from - the truth of your own origins doesn't belong to anyone but you.

Good luck.  If you post where you were born and/or adopted I can edit my answer to give  more accurate guidance.

In the meantime, register with http://isrr.net/

and http://registry.adoption.com/

ETA:  Well that didn't take long did it! Tom telling you who your mother is - what an a**.  You'll get alot of that, please don't let anyone tell you how to think or how to feel :)

OK, start by writing here for information:

Jann Young

711 East Fifth Street

Carson City, NV 89710

[phone]

http://dcfs.state.nv.us/page33.html