I was adopted is there any chance i can find my real mom and how ?

Question

my real mom put me up for adoption when i was just 8 months old because she couldn't cope she was only 16 and she referred to me and my twin as little S**ts i really want to find my mom now that she will be more mature to see us i dint know is she will want to see me or my sister and i have spoken to my mom about it and my sister my mom said i can find her if i want but i have my sister to help me and my mom wont help me and i think there must be a reason for this but she wont tell me so me and my sister need to know how to find our mom HELPP !!!

Answer 1

Your adoptive mother is quite possibly threatened by your natural mother's status - I mean, you refer to your biological mother as your 'real' mother, for a start. To my mind, the woman who reared you and your sister is your 'real' mother is every sense of the word. I think if you want your adoptive mother's help, you are going to have to clear it this up with her, and reassure her that you are not planning on changing her status in your life in every way .... after all, SHE wanted you and your sister enough to take you in, two children born of another woman, and rear you as her own. And your biological mother, as you have described, was only 16 and didn't seem to want you.

Once you have cleared this with your Mum - because this is the relationship - then you really need to think about what you're doing. There is a very distinct possibility that your biological mother will NOT want to see either you or your sister. This is definitely something that you need to be prepared for. Remember, meeting you would be very hard for her, with all the feelings of guilt and remorse that she is likely to have. If your adoptive mother will help you, find the agency that dealt with the adoption, and ask their advice on how to proceed. They will probably advise counselling of some kind.  

Answer 2

Get a copy of your birth certificate.. ask your adopted parents what city they adopted you in... and open up that phone book.

Answer 3

your mom is a s!ut. she takes it in the butt.

Answer 4

i dont really know how to huni sorry .. i guess ur mom is like that now because she scared of losin you both ! good luck in the search!!!