I was baby sitting and the child humped my leg? I feel extremely awkward. what should I do?

Question

okay,

I understand that children m********e at any ages, I did my self when i was younger and I thought i committed this huge crime for doing so, i finally told my mom and she was like stop freaking out its normal. On about my story.. I was watching my Boyfriends nieces and we were just playing around and she hopped on my leg and just started going at it.. It might not seem like a big deal but im the type of person that makes such a big deal out of something so small. The reason im freaking out is because one Im 18 and two i watch the news about all of the molesters and i just think im to blame? Its just making me feel extremely bad... what should i do?

Answer 1

This child might have had an experience sitting on someone's foot while they were walking or sitting on someone's leg while they bounced her up and down...like riding the horse.  Sometimes if adults are sitting and have their legs crossed, the child will sit on their leg, ankle, or foot that is in the air and the adult will hold their hands as they bounce them up and down (riding the horse).  It's an innocent form of play.  If I were you, I wouldn't think too much about it.  I think the child was just playing.

Answer 2

Just pick her up off your leg and distract her..she is just being a normal kid. Since your 18 now maybe you could work on not making a big deal out of everything.. life gets a lot trickier than trying to figure out how to save your leg from one little girl. No need to feel guilty ..just be the grown up in the situation.

Besides are you sure she wasn't just wanting a horsey ride.. my kid would sit on my foot and it seemed like humping because she would bounce on my foot but all she wanted was a horsey ride on my foot.

Answer 3

If you are thinking that this may be a sign of child sexual abuse then you are correct.  It should be brought to the attention of the parent in a discreet way.  It may be nothing, depending on the age of the children.  The younger the child the more likely there was abuse.

Answer 4

I understand what you're saying.  Unless you did anything to encourage this you aren't to blame.

You should probably watch her, just in case someone is molesting her.  It is possible that she picked it up from school, off TV, or even from a family member though.

If she does it again just explain to her that what she's doing isn't appropriate and ask her if she has any questions.

You should definately tell the parents and your boyfriend too, just in case they start to question you.

Answer 5

no honestly dont worry about it.  children do this.  as long as you didnt initiate anything its not ur fault.

I used to babysit a little girl and little boy and the girl would do that sort of thing from time to time (im a guy).  I would just tell her to stop nicely

Answer 6

punch her in the face  

Answer 7

You didn't molest her so much as she molested your leg. Don't worry. She's young and doesn't know any better. Just don't worry so much...unless she does it again. Then you need to gently pry her off and distract her with something else.

Answer 8

Explain to the kid that it makes you uncomfortable and that this is not something that you do to other people and ask her to please no to do it again.

The kid should understand that you're upset and at least leave you alone.

Answer 9

i'd say it depends on the laws in your area. if you live in south east asia, hump them right back!

Answer 10

Maybe she saw a dog.........

Nah. Seriousness here, I'd probably tell my parents or something..

or maybe just ignore it, try walk away next (if there is a next time) she does it. =)

Goodluck

Answer 11

Wtf is wrong with you, she was a kid. She didn't know any better. Why are you freaking out over nothing.

How  are you mature enough to babysit when you are going psycho over nothing?

Answer 12

run and call the cops lol :)

Answer 13

This sounds so much like my nephew. He has seen so much in his life. His mom died and he stays with his not so great dad who lets him see everything. My sisters friend came over one day and they were all sitting on my porch and my nephew started smiling at him and my sister told him to back up but it was too late, my nephew was already latched on to his leg going at it... He goes to therapy, on meds, etc. Nothing seems to help though. He does the most terrible things now just CONSTANTLY. Says the worst things, does the worst things, its awful. Half the stuff he does and says, Ive never even heard of.

I know its awful, but you didnt do anything, the little girl just has problems. If it bothers you too much just dont watch them, or tell them firmly that your not going to tolerate any nonsense. Be stern with them and they will usually listen... Unless they are like my nephew... I know the feeling Good luck!

Answer 14

Tell your boyfriend! :o

Answer 15

First tell your boyfriend, just to let him know it happened. It is normal..I have had this happen to me..but I do think it's something you should tell someone in their family so in case there is someone else who watches the girls they can be prepared. :)

You are fine, it is normal but nothing to worry that you did anything wrong. I can understand the awkwardness of the situation. Maybe by telling your boyfriend he can then tell their mom or dad whoever he is related to in the end...That way it can be communicated to them. How old were the children? If they were old enough to know better then this may be a big deal for the parents. Honestly, they need to know that it happened. I hope this helps you. Don't be afraid to mention it! Good luck :)