What I mean is, as a kid I had to constantly try to be the best because nothing I did was ever good enough. I was always on my toes trying not to get yelled at. For example, I had to do dinner dishes for 8 people every other night. It would take hours because my dad would check the dishes afterward and if any of them still had food on them I would be punished for a week.
So I learned to never show weaknesses or flaws. I present myself as well adjusted, smart, etc... But any time I accidentally s***w up at something (like trip over something, or give the wrong answer to an intellectual question) I feel horrible. And even years later those little embarrassments come back to haunt my mind. There are embarrassing things that happened in my Teen years that still make me sick to my stomach 10 years later...
So anyway, I made a big mistake recently and it isn't something that I can sweep under the rug like usual. It's something that I have to ask someone for help. I have to admit that I totally screwed up and that I stupidly did the wrong thing. It shouldn't be a big deal because it is easy to fix once I ask for help, but I find myself in a complete panic.
I've put off asking for help on this issue for months and months, and recently got close to asking but the person was busy. I'm so angry at myself because I was a complete wreck and I hadn't even said anything to him yet.
The point of all this is: Am I always going to be broken like this?
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