I was in an abusive marriage for 18 yrs

Question

i got Way in the end by plucking up the courage to go to the police i took my 3 daughters and lived in a bed and breakfast until i was rehoused that was ba while ago my 3 daughters are now grown up and with family's of their own i now have a wonder full husband and another 2 children but my problem is my oldest daughters have all lost their children the eldest one lost hers to her husband because she was an unfit mother my second eldest child lost hers to the local authority's she chose an undesirable man over her children i did fight in court for her children but was unsuccessfully now i back and fore court fighting for my other daughters son i have had the assessments done they came back pretty good but the local social services said i cant have him because my daughter will come to my home and upset my family please help what can i do to protect my family and my grandson .

Answer 1

That's a tough one, the only options I can think of are...

1) Chose between your daughters and your grandchildren, to have one             you need to lose the other

2) Allow the children to be fostered and request visiting access for yourself

I'm sorry you've had such a hard time and now face such a difficult choice.

Best of luck to you

Answer 2

The truth is that all the years of abuse affected your daughters too. It really sounds like counseling may be the answer. Even if you could get your grandson there is such a thing as a guardian light em which is a middle person for visitation and such. Why has social services not talked about this? You could also have a restraining order on top of this to where she would be in trouble to come to your house and not through the guardian light em. The courts order her to get counseling while this separation is going on.