I was just listening to sad songs,and i started crying?

Question

i realized how hard it must be to divorced or broken up with someone you really loved.im with my boyfriend for a couple years now and i cant even imagine.

not to make you sad or anything,

but how did you guys cope through everything? is it ok now?

thanks(L) & sorry..

Answer 1

Its seems you are so emotiona ial the same too even a san movie i find myself crying alot but its good to cry sometimes jut keep your relationship burning as its hurts to loose someone

Answer 2

My first marriage was a mistake and my first divorce was a blessing. My second marriage was and still is a blessing and no plans for a divorce in the near or far future. However I did loose a bf that was a long term relationship, very committed and very much in love 5 years ago. He suddenly got sick, was hospitalized and on life support for 8 days before he passed away. I held his had as he passed and never in my life did i ever think i would ever go thru something like that. It was the most painful thing I went thru besides my mom passing away which 22 years later I'm still not over. It took me 3 years to start dating again and really didnt date all that much.. 3 years ago I met my amazing wonderful loving husband. He is everything that my late bf wanted me to have in my life, that could give me what he knew i deserved. My husband knows about my late bf, and he understands and dosnt get mad when I talk about him, not often but sometimes his name will come up in a conversation. Time is what has helped me get thru the things i have been thru.. one day at a time, one step at a a time...  

Answer 3

We all handle our emotions in different ways. We often think that we can understand what others are going through...but really we can't. We can only relate to how it caused us to feel. But to fully understand what others are going through when it comes to emotions of the heart...we can't. We can't feel the depth of their love of how it affects them. Some reactions have been to just be able to walk away from it all while other reactions have been extreme. It's been 5 years since my wife cheated on me. She was my whole life..every breath I took. As long as I woke up to her every morning...life was good. The affair almost destroyed me. To this day I don't listen to love songs or watch intimate love scenes on TV. I'm just not able to do it. I had to rid myself of everything that reminded me of her...right down to my wardrobe. I moved all the way to the other side of the country so that I knew there would be no chance of seeing her. But...even doing that I can't get rid of memories. It's amazing the stupidest little things I see or hear that bring those memories back. God, I wish we had a delete key that could wipe everything out!! Now life is a day at a time....days that are still filled with sadness...days that are still filled with tears. Even after all the hurt I've been through in the past 5 years..if she needed my last breath so that she could live....I'd give it to her without any hesitation. We really don't understand or think about what we put others through when we cause them hurt.

Answer 4

Man, when I think back to the day I felt my world collapse around me it is still hard to swallow it all down.

The hardest thing to do when things end with someone be it a divorce or just a breakup is to walk away. It may sound crazy but walking away from someone you love or loved felt a lot like admitting defeat for me. I refused to let myself accept that I couldn't fix the problems in my relationship for a long time and looking back I wish I'd just accepted all the truths and walked away a lot sooner.

What worked best for me was to completely close off all contact with the person, pick up more hours at my job, and whenever I heard a song or seen something that reminded me of the person I refused to let it make me sad but instead aloud myself to remember what I loved about  that person and accept that things were better off over.

Some breakups can be pretty horrible but accepting things and moving on is refreshing. Now whenever I see the person and he is striving for my attention to see if I still have feelings for him I secretly smile knowing that I was the bigger person and moved on.

I'm now married to a different man I met just a few months after my breakup and have never been happier. I have realized that things were meant to end, I'm glad that they did, I hold no harsh feelings towards what I had with my ex but instead embrace the wonderful memories.

Answer 5

My ex gf cheated. It hard and easy to move on. I am better off now without here and her lying. If you are afraid to lose your partner then you dont deserve a relationship yet. Dont idolize it and you will be fine

Answer 6

Oh wow Amanda P.I may not know you,but i am so happy for you.I wish  continued happiness for you always girl!

Answer 7

Life is great.

Divorces/breakups are like any other problem you go through in life, you work through these problems.

Life does go on, you just try to learn from your mistakes so  you don't repeat them.

Save your tears for the inevitable pain you will one day experience in your own life.