I was placed for adoption in 1976 in Pennsylvania?

Question

and just this year found my birthfamily. My birthmother wants nothing to do with me, but I would like some information about myself when I was born that she won't give to me, like how much I weighed at birth, that sort of thing. How can I get it?

Answer 1

That info should be on your adopted birth certificate. You or your Mom should have a copy of it. Your birthmom probably doesn't have your birth certicate. I know i didn't get any info about my birth daughter. I asked but in 1972, they said just pretend like it never happened, I tried, but of course couldn't. I cried every birthday. Now I rejoice since I found her 2001.

I used a locate me site and a search angel, also sent a letter to the adoption agency.

Answer 2

If you know which adoption agency she placed you through, contact them. Hopefully they will still have the records and the info will be there for you. Otherwise, if you know what hospital you were born at, they may have the records. Keep in mind, there are confidentiality laws so it might not be too easy to get the info. Good luck!

Answer 3

Do you know what hospital you were born in or what agency did the adoption?  Perhaps they can assist you?  

While I don't have much info about how to find your birth information, where in PA were you born?  I was born in PA in 1971 and possibly can offer some assistance.  If you know your birth family name, and they lived/live anywhere near where I did or where my parents still do, I'm happy to try to research for you.  Email me off list.

Take care and good luck in your search!

Answer 4

The agency through which you were adopted (whether it is private or public, or even an attorney) will have a file that holds the information, including a birth certificate. I don't know Pennsylvania laws on it, but I would start there. If your parents can't seem to answer questions in person or via telephone, write them. I would also send it certified. There are adoption information mediators, too. If you can't find one there, contact me and I'll give you a name for one where I live that would be a good resource.

I'm sorry that you got a cold response! Maybe it's the intial shock of being contacted.....

Answer 5

Oh Dianna - I'm so sorry - I too know your pain.

My mother replied to my initial letter - then all I've had since is silence.

Two years on - and many many letters later - I've finally had contact with her husband - and he's admitted that he's my father (they married 6 months after my birth)

I still haven't got a whole heap of info - by slowly slowly - I'm hoping more will come.

It's horrible to be rejected in this way. No one realises how much such a rejection hurts. To the core.

I'd write letters - and if you have to - just say that you're fine to leave her in peace - but you're just trying to fill in the gaps of your life etc etc.

Here's a support group online - by adoptees - for adoptees - which I have found to be a great source of support -

http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index...

Hoping and wishing that she'll come around - and soon.

Poss. xx

Answer 6

demand it

Answer 7

Maybe she would give you the information through the mail. Right her a letter with all the questions you want to ask her. Hopefully she will answer if she doesn't have to see you face to face. I'm sure that would be painful for her. Knowing that she gave you up.

Answer 8

I am sorry to hear what oyu are going through. I myself was adopted, and found my birthmother about 3 years ago. My birth mother doesnt really want anything to do with me, etc. I too wanted to knwo personal information about myself, especially what medical problems run in my family.

Unforunetly, you cannot force her to give that kind of information to you. You can just continue to politely ask her, and explain why you want to know. Do you have a copy of your original birth certificate? If not, ask your adoptive parents, they usually get a copy of your original birth certificate when they adopted you. You original birth certificate may have this information on it. If not, you can try contacting the hospital you were born it and asking for it from them.

Good luck! If oyu ever need to talk about this, let me know. I know exactly what you are going through. I waited so long to find my biological mom, and then she didnt even want anything to do with me. But i am greatful i have wonderful adoptive parents as well!