I was reading a story about a mother who has two sons and one of both is g*y? she noticed he was different ?

Question

well.. I live in mexico.. in this magazine.. there is a story about a mother who has a g*y son.. and his son,, since he was a child.. he preferred to play with dolls.. and he came out with her until he was 21, but she always have doubts about his sexuality, because he never spoke about girls or stuff like that, he was quiet about that topic, she noticed he was something effeminate, it was hard for her but now she said.. she accepts her son and love so much.. she can scream.. I have a g*y son and I am proud of it.. my question is as a g*y do we have something effeminate in us as g*y males? always? I am something effeminate, males always rejected me for being something with mannerims.. but I never played with dolls or stuff like that or like the pink rose.. I am lonely, and the few g**s I knew personally were effeminate in some levels.. they try to hide.. and they always played to be a woman in some meeting, but I am not sure.. if there are totally masculine g**s.. being g*y is an orientantion but as well is an action or behavior? naturally?

Answer 1

I think you just crystallized what most people in the world are confused by, confusing homosexuality with effiminacy. The bigots like to parade that line, that all homosexual (men) are "swishy", "girly" and anyone who has seen the g*y community in all its' glory will find that laughably untrue. It's just easier for the religious fundamentalists to paint us in a certain way - not a real stretch for their minds, since they are close minded and like to think one way, anyway.

"Effeminate" actions are NOT ingrained or genetic, these are willfully acted on (so any boy who's ever been accused of acting "girly" knows how to "butch it up" at any time) and what actions are considered effeminate are also culturally determined.

Two examples I can think of: In Asia, some societies accept two men holding hands as something "normal" and see nothing "g*y" or "girly", so what would be considered effeminate in the West might not be seen in the same way in the East.

Another example is the research in Latin societies, where (straight) men who have been separated from their wives due to work (like being in a mine for 6-9 months) engage in homosexual s*x, who do NOT consider themselves g*y, as long as they take the "top" position and not the "bottom". (This last example is less bout effiminacy, but also shows that even in terms of homosexuality, some cultures also have different definitions of what constitutes it.)

And yes, you have it right, as long as we live with our parents, they call the shots - which is why I left home to start my life with my partner. Only you can decide what to do in your life. Continue studying and learning English, you're on your way to better language usage. Good luck!

Answer 2

omg.

the punctuation.

it hurts my brain.

Answer 3

"...in mexico meanwhile you live with your parents you have to obey them."

Why?  Is this an actual law?  Or just a custom?

Answer 4

No not all g**s have effeminate tendencies. The reason that stereotype sticks out is because the effeminate g**s stick out of the social norm that men have to be "masculine".

Answer 5

A recent brain scan study found that the size of the two symmetrical halves of the brains of g*y men more closely resembled those of straight women than they did straight men. In heterosexual women, the two halves of the brain are more or less the same size. In heterosexual men, the right hemisphere is slightly larger. Scans of the brains of g*y men in the study, however, showed that their hemispheres were relatively symmetrical, like those of straight women, while the brains of homosexual women were asymmetrical like those of straight men. The number of nerves connecting the two sides of the brains of g*y men were also more like the number in heterosexual women than in straight men.

A 2005 article about two identical twins, one more masculine acting and the other more feminine acting. A passage from the article says "From the moment they came out of their mother's womb, their environment was about as close to identical as possible - being fed, changed, and plopped into their car seats the same way, having similar relationships with the same nurturing father and mother. Yet before either boy could talk, one showed highly feminine traits while the other appeared to be "all boy," as the moms at the playgrounds say with apologetic shrugs."