I was sexually harrassed and cheated out of martial arts belts.I left the place because of it. Now its like I?

Question

have severe emotional problems.I'm extremely agressive.I was severely sexually harrased and almost raped in high almost everday. I cry for no reason. I mean I wasn't raped why am I doing this and how can i fix it?

Answer 1

If the near-rape incident scared you that much, take up martial arts again, or kickboxing or anything that can help you defend yourself if you ever find that you're in that situation again. This will give you peace of mind, and you'll be much happier

Answer 2

This looks like post traumatic stress disorder

That near rape experience was pretty traumatic to you, maybe you should talk to a therapist, they help you deal with this type of emotional pain.

Answer 3

You may well be suffering from PTSD: See Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 33 - 34, and examine the http://1-800-therapist.com/ website, and use the locators in sections 33 - 34, and section 1, and phone book, and/or various associations for psychiatrists and psychologists, to find the nearest one using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy).

If unable to afford it, or to locate one nearby, contact the county/local mental health agency: any therapy on offer may prove helpful, particularly if combined with appropriate medication. (The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective.

It is easy to be dismissive of it, because it may seem a little strange, but is well worth trying, for at least a few weeks, to see how it effective it is in your case). First, sit comfortably, and take a deep breath. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second).

Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally if you like) 20 times. Then close your eyes and relax. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel. Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner. Then, repeat the procedure one last time.

Some people may find that this is all they need do: others find that they need 2 sessions in quick succession, but professional treatment is the best option, if you can access it. With practice, you may find that you can employ this technique with your eyes closed, thereby enabling a much wider window of opportunity to use in public, without attracting unwanted attention.

Professional EMDR is always much preferable, and Opester, (who gives it a glowing recommendation) a therapist with more than 20 years experience, and a former contributor, here, stated that it was one of only 2 disorders which can be completely cured. So that I could feel that I had done what I reasonably could, I would pay for a lawyer's letter, claiming that you had been defrauded and harrassed at their establishment, and stating that legal proceedings would ensue, unless the situation was resolved to your satisfaction. Go to http://www.coolnurse.com/hotline.htm (free US calls: several suitable places).

I agree with "wishes" - try another place: tell them what happened previously (don't mention the lawyer, or they may not accept you).