I was talking about a friend behind her back and it turns out she was there?

Question

I normally don't talk behind people's back because I know how offensive it is, and I know that I wouldn't want it done behind MY back. But I was talking to a friend and we mentioned this person, and she started saying things about her that wasn't very nice, and she asked me what I thought. And I without even thinking said yeah i guess so.

And I turn around and she was behind us. I am not sure whether she heard us or not, but when I next said goodbye she did not reply. What can I do? I feel horrible and though I wasn't the one that said the bad things about her, the fact that I agreed makes me a bad person. What can I do?!? HELP!

Answer 1

Look first find out if she heard you by talking to her and see if she is like mad at u if you feel tht she knows tht you were tlkin about her sort of act like you were going to tell her as an example if you were telling your friend tht you think she is bossy tell the girl you were tlking about, tht u think she is a little bossy and say y are u bossy some times she may not like tht u said tht but she will think tht u wanted to tell her that and tht will make her less mad and make her not think tht u are a bad friend or you can just tell her tht u were talking about her and u feel real bad about it b4 she tells u tht she heard u talking about her. hope i helped and tell me if i did =]

Answer 2

Well, she's your friend and you probably hurt her feelings. You need to apologize. Just tell her that you said it without thinking and you didn't mean it...you just didn't want to get on her bad side..but now you really regret it and wish you never said it, because your friendship is more important.

Good luck<3

Answer 3

   if she is a friend to you and she thought that you were a friend to her then she expected you to back her up and defend her as her friend. If she did hear you, she was probably hurt to hear you agree, but at the same time as americans we are entitled to our  opionion. and if that is the way that you truly feel, then you shouldn't feel bad. what ever you guys were talking about is true feelings and you shouldn't try to hide those. now that she has heard you, maybe she will try to work on some of the things that you guys were talking about  

Answer 4

I have totally done that before - a very similar situation! I went up to her after school one day and I just told her that I didn't really agree with the things that my other friend had said about her and that I should have disagreed and that I was wrong. She totally understood and we remained good friends. you should talk to her and tell her that you didn't agree and ask her if she'd like to go to a movie or something with you to show her that you still want to be friends. It's hard, but totally worth it!

Answer 5

Print this out & show it to her.And take it from there. Otherwise she may not be talking to you for a while,if ever!

Answer 6

well if you didn't say anything then you shouldnt have anything to worry about. Maybe she didnt hear it. But if she hold's a grudge then tell her the truth and always say sorry.

Answer 7

Apologize. Have you ever considered sticking up for your friends when someone is bad mouthing them? That's what real friends do.

Answer 8

Pass the blame onto the other person.  Just say you didn't really mean it, and that your sorry.  Hopefully she'll understand !!!

Answer 9

Let your friend know you were just trying to look good by agreeing. What you really wanted to do was sock 'em between the eyes talkin' about you that way, but I didn't. I am truly sorry. Will you forgive me?