I was thinking of telling my ex that i was suppose to have twins?

Question

you know how my ex jarred always tells me he hopes the baby dies, calls baby "it", has a new girlfriend.. while i am sick of him wishing death on my baby, next time he says it i am thinking of telling him i was suppose to have twins but i lost one baby. (even though im only pregnant with one healthy baby) i think he will feel like **** if i tell him that. any suggestions?

Answer 1

I think in the long run it will only make you feel like s**t, not him.  Seems like he doesn't care either way and your conscience will eat away at you because of your lie.  It's his loss...don't let him get under your skin.

Answer 2

Grow up. You are going to be a mother now. Be the better person and don't sink to his level. He's a jerk and you are better off without him, anyway.

Answer 3

You are spending way too much time thinking and plotting against this man and not enjoying your pregnancy.  Who cares what he thinks, who cares what he says.  Be happy you are going to become a mother.  He is the one missing out.  If you tell a lie, what if he asks for some sort of proof from a doctor?  What will you do then?  Another lie?  That makes you no better then him.  It makes you a liar.  Stop worrying over this ignorant man and go and have a healthy baby.

Answer 4

fvck what he says. believe me, karma/God whatever will give him his just desserts. i really believe that. he is your ex, focus on your baby, work hard to let go of resentments and move on. all this lingering onto him implies you have unfinished business with him.

hes a sick bassturd

Answer 5

OH MY GOODNESS!!!!!

stop asking questions about this on here and SORT IT OUT. dont make yourself look like an idiot by saying one baby died. my first baby died - why would you even say that???

Answer 6

Don't stoop to his level.  If I were you I would petition the courts to take away his parental rights.  If thats how he feels you dont' need him anyway.  Nor does your child.

Answer 7

I agree...it's time for u to grow up.  When u are mature you are able to let comments like that go because you have more important things in life to worry about.  

Concentrate on finishing your education and your impending baby.  Yes, it is that simple if u let it be.

Answer 8

No, No, and no

Answer 9

Rise above it, he seems like a horrible selfish man, is he the father of your baby?

If he is, he needs help!

:O

Answer 10

I really don't think he will care!

Sounds to me like he didn't want a kid to begin with and he is just going through the emotions right now of not haveing a say in his own life!!!!!

Condoms and birth control.......they are free please use them.

He moved on.  Trying to "hurt" him is not going to work.  He obviously does not care.

Answer 11

why would you lie about something like that,s***w your ex he will get his karma just by everyday living.live your life ignore him and  take care of your baby!

Answer 12

While its gotta hurt to be handling pregnancy alone, to see him wiht a new girl, and to have him say such horrible things, don't stoop to his level.  I wouldget him on tape, phone message, etc as often as possible making those statements about hoping your child dies so that his rights can be taken and you have a valid reason for denying him access to the baby once it is born.  HE'S the one who is going to feel the pain later on in life,  never getting to know his child or the joys of being a parent... not to mention it hitting him in the wallet whne you petition for child support (and yes, you can receive support even if his parental rights have been denied).

Answer 13

I have lost a baby and there is not feeling like it. you should NEVER lie about something like that.

Answer 14

no it will only make matters worse, you instead of making him go oh sh******* you make make him glad and more aggresive with the i hope it dies attacks.

he is trying to get a reaction out of you!!!!!!!

ignore it, really he may say it over and over but if you act like it doesn't bother you then he will find another button to push.  it will be hard but as long as you stay cool and calm, no matter how much nasty c**p you want to say, fight all the emotion down when on the phone or talking in person, and if he says it to your face stare blankly at him and be calm, and go on with the conversation like he hadn't said it.

he will squirm because he isn't hurting you anymore.  and even if it does bother you wait untill he is gone and none of his assosiates (friends gf co-workers) can see or hear you (like at home) then let it all out and just act like he is there and let him have it (yes yes talk to yourself or a photo of him)

my ex husband would say whatever he could to bother me (including telling our 3 yo son that i was a who*** and that he was going to buy him prostitues for his 12 13th b-day, or that when he got old enough (like 11-12) he would teach him to drink...and all these horrible things (it got worse at times, he would tell me that he would tell our son that mommy did this mommy is that...how to control his gfs and wife ect)

it took a long time but i stopped letting it get to me (so hard at first but statred with waiting untill i got home or hung up the phone..hehe or was in the car to let out my emotions)

and as i kept on this and remained calm cool and collected i saw that he was squirming and bothered (and a little hurt) that he couldn't get to me. then he stoped really talking to me unless it was to tell me that our son had a fever or pink eye, or the basics but was really upset that i couldn't be gotten too.

the more i saw him get upset or had him hang up on me because he pushed a button and it didn't work and i saw the panic and the deer in the head lights look the easier it was to let it go.

because he didn't really mean what he said (well most of it) and that why say it if i wasn't going to get angry or upset, he got no entertainment no satisfaction from upsetting me anymore because i stopped giving a c**p what he said...

they were just words.....and that no longer got to me.

i never showed my contentness about watching him squirm and panic when he tried to upset me.  and my entire life relaxed, i was more rested and far less stressed.  had less aches and pains.  i just felt better all the time and was happier and because of that our son improved a lot (both mom and dad had calmed down) and i was happier around him and not stressed and at 3 he was happier to.  

his daycare provider noticed a change in him, and my employer noticed a change in me.  i was more efficiant at work...ect ect.

it won't be easy at all but remain cool calm and collective and say nothing in retaliation......you will never get the response you expect.  his new gf likely has a lot to do with his hatred of the baby, especially if it is his.  if it is you do not need to contact him put his name on the birth certificate and the file for child support...really unless you have other children together you do not need to speak to him.  ignore his calls.  if you don't and he gets disrespectful tell him that needs to stop and you will not speak to him untill he can talk to you with respect....and say good bye and hang up.  but you be respectful to him so he can't say well your being a bi***** so why do i have to be nice. and you don't need nice just buissness like.  any contact with him should be treated like a buissness transaction.

i have moved on and am now with someone wounderful! (i got lucky!) we are now ex[ecting our first child together after a loss last year.

Answer 15

lemme just ask you this, why the h**l is he still in your life anyway!!!

he's a loser and you obviously deserve much more than this,

good luck

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