I was very close to my grandmother growing up. i went through a hard time and did not communicate?

Question

with her forquite a number of years . My mom told me that she explained to my grandma that i was having a rough time and that my grandmother understood. My grandmother died and i found out later that my mom had never actually said anything to her for worry of upsetting her. How do i get past this. Would she know?

Answer 1

ask alot of your friends and people who are in your family that loved her very much too

Answer 2

once she pased on she became aware of everything . go to sleep tonight and dream about her . then you can tell her , that will ease your mind.

Answer 3

I am very sorry for your loss what you are going through catches alot of us when we lose a loved one.Not telling that person all we wanted to tell them is hard to live with but in all honesty I would bet anything your grandma knew all you wanted to say tell your grandma what you want to say and let go of the pain you are carrying try this write a letter with all you wanted to say go toyour grandmas grave read the letter then seal the letter and tie the letter to some helium balloons and release the letter and with it release the pain and guilt you carry and know your grandma hears you and does not want you to carry that guilt anymore but let it go ok

Answer 4

did she die before you came back.

or did you get a chance to be around her for a little while before she passed away.

if she passed on while you were gone she probably always knew you loved her. i am sure she was able to figure it out.

if you got a chance to see her before she passed then there is no doubt she knew you still loved her.

i think your just feeling quilty cause you lost some good years with her while dealing with something.  else.

i never seen my papas mama much and well i felt guilty when she died. but she had to have known that i loved her. and i was only a teengager so i was not mature enough to understand spending time with her. i am now at peace with it. but i still wish i would have been there more.

it will be ok.

Answer 5

Honey I know she is at peace now & the thongs she may worried for here are all resolved.You will see Gramma again, & everything is forgotten. gramma knew that you loved her! Trust me, she knows. Its OK. Can this be a growing lesson? From now take my advice- allways no matter what is going on- tell people you love- how much you love them. I did something similar, My Gramma's gone too. I wish I had 2 minuites to tell her some things & let her know I allways love her.

Answer 6

I am sorry to hear you weren't able to have adequate closure with your grandmother.  It will take time, but I believe you will eventually reconcile these feelings.  The lesson you can learn from this is to be as close to your mother as possible, because some day she will be gone too.

There is no reason to think your grandmother "knows" anything about this in the spiritual sense.  However, if your grandmother is as kind and wise as mine, she knew before she even passed away.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I understand this completely.  I lost my grandmother and both of my grandfathers, each about a year apart from each other.  It still hurts me from time to time and its been over a decade.

What I do sometimes is just talk to them.  Tell them everything that's on your heart.   I like to believe that all our family members are with us always in some form.  

Not every one believes it.  But even just being by yourself and voicing what you would like you grandmother to know will help.  Its not going to be an automatic fix. You clearly loved her deeply and the lack of her in your life, well, that hole's always gonna be there in some form.

So, just say it.  Tell her how you feel.  I'm sure she already knew in life, but there's no harm in telling her now that's she's gone from here.

Answer 9

Grandmothers have a way of "knowing" that their grandchildren love them. I don't think she would have wanted you to worry about her on top of all your other problems. If she's in spirit...and can see you now..why don't you write her a letter? After you write  it ...read it out loud. If she's around, she'll hear it. If she's not around..she's probably in Heaven. So..either way...she'd be happy. I'm sure she's not spending eternity worrying about if you loved her. I'm sure she had an idea you were having a hard time. I feel the same way about my mother. Wish I had told her I was having a hard time. Don't make the same mistake with your mother. Be sure you say all the things now that you might wish later that you had said .

Answer 10

It's amazing the world of knowledge grandparents have, she just knew because she knew you. She's still around probably, you can still talk with her.

Answer 11

I am sure she knows now and maby she did all the time. Now that she passed over, there's a good chance that she may be around you, so maby you should talk to her and she will hear you. I don't think that you should worry about this. You love her, and she can sense that.