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I was wondering if I have a physical problem? It is very hard for me to have an o****m through intercourse.?

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When I was a 100 pounds lighter 4 years ago I didn't have this problem. Within the past 3 years I havent been able to have one through intercourse but I have through oral. Is it because of my weight or am I not concentrating enough?

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you shouldn't be concentrating at all on the o****m. its about the process not the product. plus its hard for girls do reach o****m through intercourse alone even though you have before that just may not to it for you anymore and obviously clitoral stimulation works for you. so just engage clitoral stimulation at the same time.
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it can be as complicated as a psychological problem, or something as simple on how the clitoris now lines up with the pelvis of your partner. Try stimulating yourself while having s*x. It may get in the way a little, but your partner wont mind.
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I used to wonder this myself until i met a person i was so comfatable with that i could have an o****m, it took 10 years of frustration lol

Interesting though as you say about your weight.....when i was with this special person i was actually 2.5 stone lighter.
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Was it a particular position you were achieving it in? Do you have a different partner? That could be the difference. Or you could be uncomfortable with the weight gain and self conscious. Good luck.
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Is not your weight at all. Maybe let your partner use a vibrator on you. Might take some time to get wet and have a o****m. Let your partner give you oral s*x and see if you can get off that way for the time being. Try a pron movie and i am not be mean. Or try k y gel; Don't focus so hard to come.Just enjoy the s*x. Some people have a problem to come.
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These two articles help woman o****m with their partners:

How to Locate the G Spot During s*x- From Behind

http://www.ehow.com/how_4448654_locate-g...

How to Locate the G Spot During s*x- Missionary Position

http://www.ehow.com/how_4451153_locate-g...

Hope they answer your questions!
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there are soo many things it could be. If you are not happy with your self image that could effect you satisfaction in the sac. sometimes things change with age and with pregnancies. I had a hard time for a little while and began exercising about 3-4 times a week, that seemed to straighten me out. there could be thousands of reasons why though...you just have to try many different changes until you find what works for you!
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    * 1. Become comfortable with your own body.

    * 2. Look at the messages you got as a kid about "self pleasuring"(masturbation). Bad, dirty, dangerous?

    * 3. Give yourself permission to fantasize about s*x. Read a s**y novel, romance pocket book, allow yourself to get turned on. You can't m********e without fantasy. Read our web site on female masturbation.

    * 4. Give yourself permission to stimulate yourself, Learn what pleasures you, all by yourself.

    * 5. Share that information with your partner, guide your partner so he can make the moves that are pleasurable for you.

    Here are a few great books that will be helpful: 'The Big Book of Masturbation' from Down There Press; 'The Good o****m Guide' by Kate Taylor; 'Self Love and o****m' and 's*x For One', both by Betty Dobson; 'Turn Ons, Pleasing Yourself While You Please Your Lover' by Dr. Lonnie Barbach; 'Orgasms' by Tara Barker; 'For Yourself' by Dr. Lonnie Barbach; 'Understanding the G-spot' by Donald Hicks; and 'Great s*x' by Anne Hooper.

GOOD LUCK
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