I went too far with my boyfriend?

Question

Oh my gosh. I feel like the worlds worst person right now.

I was just at my boyfriends house, and things got carried away.

We didn't have s*x, which we DON'T plan to, but there was some pretty intense dry humping and his shirt was off.

I know I went to far, and he even left a terrible, trashy looking hickey to remind me of our night.

I've already called him and let him know how I felt, and we've set boundaries for next time.

I'm a very responsible 16 year old girl, and I just feel like such a terrible person right now. Should I feel this way?

Answer 1

I know how you feel. This has happend to me. I feel the same way. Your hormones got the best of yall. You didnt go all the way so good for you. You made a mistake and you admitted it, and that is very mature. Just put in in your head and say you learn from your mistakes. you know what happend and you regret it, and dont want to experience it again.

God bless.

Answer 2

Yes. You are learning that you do have boundaries for yourself. Although your BF will not respect them next time either.

NO means NO.

He is pushing the issue with the shirt off. It is NOT you, and you know it.  Dump him before he makes you do something you don't want to. Or at least until you can control him. What tells me how he is. The fact that you have a huge nasty hickey and that he was humping and had his shirt off. Next time he may force himself upon you.

At the very least, I would stop the relationship now, until I could handle it better.

Answer 3

No, you've dealt with it responsibly. I'm proud of you.

I'm anti hickey, I do think they look trashy.  Did you tell him not to do that anymore?

Answer 4

well from what i am reading in yahoo answers today your not pregnant and not looking like your in danger of that so that is something good at lest and if you did not have s*x then no i do not think so i think let yourself off the hook this time but keep true to what you wont to have and where you wont this relationship to be at right now and just keep it their

Good luck  

Answer 5

well if you think you went too far then yea you should probably feel this way

Answer 6

uhm no.

i dont think thats going "too far"

but yah know, everyones different.

you didnt really do anything bad so its fine!

Answer 7

don't feel too bad. you are not horrible. at 16 years old hormones get crazy. and darn it, the stuff you did feels good at that age. you are not going to get pregnant dry humping.

If you do not like hickeys, then it is fine to let him know that you don't like them. I think at that age my personal rule was that we could do whatever we wanted as long as my jeans stayed on my body. it's almost impossible to get pregnant if your jeans are firmly covering all the important parts :) Since you are so responsible you might want to go buy a few condoms, just in case, so you are prepared in the event that your hormones take over again.

Answer 8

Of course not. Your hormones just simply got the better of you which has been known to happen from time to time. It's great that you spoke to your guy about it and let him know how you feel and it's even better that you are on the same page. Relax, you didn't do anything wrong. And if you do decide to have s*x, please be careful and use a condom. Best Wishes

Answer 9

You're awesome!

That being said, I don't think you should feel terrible though. Being intimate with your boyfriend doesn't make you a bad person. It's just the matter of going against your morals and what not. Since you've set boundaries for next time already, then all is good! You're responsible. Awesome!

Answer 10

Well I think you shouldn't feel that bad...

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