I wonder why some people think there is a perfect couple?

Question

only married people will understand this one so .

why do some people think there is a couple that dont fight. everybody fights , there is no such thing as a perfect couple . hubby and i fight so? last time we were going to a friends house . the whole time he was driving my face was turned to the window cause we kept fighting and arguing about road directions and what not. when we got there we were still at it until we got out of the car . but as soon as we rang that bell we started smiling as if we were in paradise .do you people do that sometimes ? sometimes we will be at a party and something will happen and we say oh sorry we have to leave now we ve got to be somewhere else too today . but hey we were going home cause we couldnt pretend anymore . as soon as you hit the car you start fighting like crazy or you turn you face to the window again.

but it doesnt mean we dont love each other does it ? it doesnt mean we arent right for each other . if hubby cheats, i would like to know why he did and see if we can work trought it but for some people the first thing that comes to mind is divorce. why is that? how does a couple who care about each other grow to hate each other . yeah sometimes i feel like ok i am ready to pull the trigger but i know i never will does that mean we dont love each other ? NO . what do you guys think ? do you guys fight with your spouse ? ( it even sounds like a dumb questin to as if you ask me )

Answer 1

I see where you are coming from, trust me.  But eventually people get tired or fussing and just putting up with the other persons Bull sh*t.  I can see a down part of the rollercoaster, a few months we make up.  But if every little thing turns into a fight, you both need to get to the root cause of the disagreements.  If only one person is willing to resolve the issuses then it's time to separate or take a time out.  I do enjoy disagreements, but constant fighting....is not for me. Cheating, I don't think you should divorce, I think it's a time to sit down and have a heart to heart.  There is a breakdown some where.  Now consistant cheating and disrespect...H*LL NO, I'm not a doormat!!  

Answer 2

everybody fights.  very rare exceptions to that rule.  but what you are describing, hopefully it doesn't happen very often (getting mad at a party and going home to fight).

fights happen, sometimes it's just an annoying type of thing (couple of sentances) or sometimes it's more drawn out and long.

as far as the happy couple thing, i think just about everyone does that.  they put their best face forward in public and don't let any negativity out.  hopefully putting your best face forward isn't always a sham, but is sometimes the accurate representation of harmony and a decent (but not perfect) marriage.

lots of times i think others think of the "perfect couple" as two people who look good together.  like their appearances, the way they look, makes them look like the perfect couple.  you know like the tall athletic guy with the tall athletic spouse with a cute smile?  or whatever.

Answer 3

Yes I love my husband more than anything in the world, although we argue sometimes. Sometimes i just want to choke him lol, but i never really would. I think every couple argues and have their flaws. there is NOT a perfect couple. If anyone thinks that, then they are crazy in the head and have problems. Also I think if you don't argue then you don't care. :]

Answer 4

I don't fight with my husband. Neither of us are argumentative, we're too easy-going, and we just get along really well. Most people are shocked but there are people who never fight. I've never had an argument with my dad either when I was growing up. It depends on your personality.

Answer 5

No, it's not a dumb question. Yes, couples disagree. Fight is a tough word. I disagree.. and discuss .. and even debate. We really rarely FIGHT. There really isn't much to fight over. It's not so much about pretending to be the perfect couple.. just knowing that you shouldn't display your faults or disagreements infront of the world.  You should do it in private-- its more tactful. Everyone has disagreements.. and I'm sure some relationships have bigger issues they fight about-- yet.. in public.. they don't disclose that infromation. Not everyone has to see the negative parts of a relationship. Honestly-- to me.. cheating is not excused. Not acceptable. I really believe its so disrespectful.. that I wouldn't deal with it. I hope your mate doesnt know that " if he cheats.. I would like to know why and see if we can work through".. once he knows that-- I'm sure he'll be more likely to cheat.  

Answer 6

No it's not dumb and I believe everyone does argue some people are just worst thou. My neighbor who I don't know very well came up to me a few weeks back and she was embarrassed and said I know you probably hear me and my husband arguing and I told her no I have never heard it but if I did I wouldn't care because me and my husband have our moments and so does the people across the street and down the block we all do and anyone that says they don't is either a complete push over or a liar.

Answer 7

Those people with the "perfect" relationship don't know how to stand up for themselves. Its as though they just bite their tongue and move on.  Couples do fight, some fight about things worse then directions, just depends on the couple.  It doesn't mean he doesn't love you.  I love my husband and we fight.  

Answer 8

My husband and I fight.  It's normal.  A couple weeks ago I was furious at him and we had to go to a graduation party for his side of the family.  We did not speak the whole way there.  When we got there with our 6 kids in tow, I was overly nice to him and he was terrified:)  It was so funny.  His brother totally knew I was being fake, it was hilarious.  We got back in the car on the way home and my husband started talking to me like nothing was wrong, so I shot him an evil look and said, "saving face is one thing but you are still an @sshole".  We didn't talk for the whole next day.  I got doghouse flowers and everything.

It's unhealthy not to fight.  If you aren't fighting someone is lying.

My husband is my soul mate, my family, and my BFF.  We fight because making up is so much fun:)

Answer 9

When my husband and I first started dating, we never fought at all.  Honestly.  But that was because we were in the "only have eyes for you" courting phase.  We eventually started having little spats after two years, but never anything serious.  Yes, all couples fight eventually, but I do believe it's possible for couples not to fight for a good phase.  

Just because couples fight doesn't mean they are unhappy or don't love each other. And I know very well the looking out the window trick.  My husband knows for darned sure that I'm mad at him every time we do that.  Our fights now lead to us blaming each other for not listening when we were, we just wanted to get our points across too. And if my hubby cheats, he's out the door.  He feels the same way.  We won't accept it.  However, since it's never happened I don't know what we would do if the situation actually occurred.

Answer 10

Everyone disagrees on some issues. In a marriage, 50/50 is minimum, give and take. Sometimes you need to give 90%, and so does the other spouse. When you both are firm footed in your beliefs and are not willing to compromise, your marriage is sure to fail.

Pretending everything is OK but knowing that it isn`t , does not make it right over time. What is happening here is a slow erosion of your marriage, and it is headed for disaster unless you 2 learn to compromise. If this is not possible, seek outside intervention, like counsel. What you describe may not be repairable, the time to act is now.

Answer 11

Maybe talk to Dr. Phil???

Answer 12

of course you fight and then put on that happy face for the world to see in the middle of it all. Doesn't mean anything but how petty the argument really is.

It's normal

edit-why'd you thumb me down- I'm agreeing with you!

Answer 13

Yeah we fight and we hide it in frount of everyone! I couldnt live with out my wife though!  

Answer 14

Most people only pay attention to what they see and don't think much beyond that.

I know a couple who in public seems perfect... so sweet and loving.. but wow, in private they literally beat the h**l out of each other. Serious physical confrontations... but no one would believe it to see them at work or out and about.

Everyone argues... everyone has disagreements. It doesn't mean you don't care or love one another, all it means is that you both are human.