I worry about my bf i think hes becoming an abusive alcoholic

Question

my boyfriends becoming an alcoholic . After he leaves from my house he goes to drink by himself and ten calls me sometimes being nice and sometimes being a complete *** who says things that hurt me. we recently got into a fight were he got pissed off becouse i was insecure about our relationship and i was going to go to a friends house to see another friend who was only in town for the day but didnt end up going becouse a guy who liked me was there . so when he left my house that day he got drunk and called me talking and i ended up getting off the phone becouse the friend i havent seen decided to visit my house. an hour past and i get a random text being mean and i call him and i ask him whats wrong and he wont tell me and hangs up on me and i try to call him back but he ignores my calls. so finally i gave up and he calls me back saying that he shouldnt have doubted him and said u shouldnt have told me about the guy being there .After i explained that what he did and said hurt me he found the whole situation funny saying i was over reacting... after he said he didnt want to talk to me and he didnt and i couldnt sleep i felt sick to my stomach i cant keep food down becouse after all that bs he puts me thru i still care for him. becouse he was there for me emotionally thru my ups and downs but when he drinks hes a whole different person. and the next day i get a text sying that he was sorry about the other night and idk i cant accept that he is and apparently hes over it but im not... i still feel sick to my stomach and my heart is being torn to shreds becouse this is the 3rd times hes done this to me in a 2 month period... i dont know what to do .. should i talk to him about it or should i just leave the relationship?

Answer 1

I understand why you are having such a hard time with this, and that you love him and want to be with him. But I think if he is acting like this now, just image later on, things are going to get worse, and he could become physically abusive if you are ever around him when he gets drunk. he has issues that need to worked out since he has to go home and get drunk everytime he leaves your house or anything really.. so its just going to get worse. If anything you can talk to him about it and maybe get him help, otherwise he isnt going to change, and so i think you should get out while you can before things get worse. I kno you love him, but i dont see it working in the long run if he is like that..

Answer 2

iv ben their and i chows to leave after we talked and he wouldn't stop so all i can tell you is try and talk and if he won't listen then leave him

Answer 3

He's a drunk.  Stay away from him.  All drunks hit their wives.  He will always hurt you.  I'm speaking from experience.  I know it's hard because you love him.  But eventually you will be tired of being hurt all the time and leave him.

Answer 4

A good place that helps people that have alcoholics in their lives and helps with answers is Alanon.  Here is a site that lists meetings.http://www.soberrecovery.com/links/al-an...