I would like to hear your opinion.?

Question

Ok, so I love kids. I want to adopt one day but for right now I am underage because I am only15 years old, but I am really passionate towards adopting in the future. As for right now I don't really care what race the child may be and what people may say, but I just wanted to hear your opinion on a black adopting from another race. e.g. Caucasian, Hispanic etc.

Yes, I want to and most likely will adopt black kids.

Answer 1

It seems in the US, there are more minority children needing homes.  Caucasian kids are more in 'demand'.  So adopting black kids would be a wonderful thing to do - they're in need to families too.  It looks like from  your avatar, you're also dark?  Which I think can be a very positive thing to pass along the heritage and history to the child as well.

Answer 2

If your doing this to give a child a good home what would it matter. Race should not be a factor.

*If I was you, I would wait until I was settled

Answer 3

I say good for you and go for it. Every child deserves a loving child-parent relationship regardless of their skin color. That should have nothing to do with their emotional needs and well being. You will be a great mother!!!

Answer 4

Some people make big deals or the race of a child. Have you ever watched losing Isiah? i think that what its  called... But i really think go for it becuz alot of children are up for adoption, probably most from china, but i think you would be a great mother considering your only 15 and you want a child. Good luck for your future! ;)

Answer 5

I too adopted trans-racially.  I agree whole heartily with Jeniffer.  Can't think of anything else to add.  I would suggest to start reading those books right away.  Good Luck to you.

Answer 6

I think it's odd that a girl in middle school has a dream of adopting.

Why not start out volunteering for Big Brothers/Big Sisters, and maybe join the Peace Corps after college?

Answer 7

We adopted transracially, Caucasians adopting African children.  I'd be happy to share a few perspectives from experience.  

Our family is ALWAYS noticed, wherever we go.  We walk into a restaraunt, heads turn.  When we're in the mall and my African son calls me "Mom", people look.  Most of the time, it's just curiousity.  Once in awhile, we get some bad looks.  Recently, we got glared at by a big guy with "White Power" and n**i tattoos at a restaraunt.  I didn't notice it (because sometimes, I just tune it out) but my husband did, and told me after we left.  

Like I said, our children are African, not African-American, and there are some distinct differences in features.  We have a very large African immigrant community where I live and I've been hugged on the street (literally!) by African adults who recognize that we adopted children from Africa.  We've gotten wonderful support from the African community. I'm not saying that we adopted from Africa just so that people would think we were saints!  It was a completely unexpected reaction!  

Skin/hair: Caring for ethnic skin and hair is VERY different than caring for Caucasian skin and hair.  We take my daughter to an African stylist who braids her hair.  There are products specific to ethnic hair that you will need to be familiar with.  I simply can't braid hair, but  do know a transracial adoptive mom who learned how.  So, if you aren't all thumbs, like me, it might be possible to do it yourself.  

I can't stress how important it is to make sure hair/skin is well cared for.  It's so important to hygiene and grooming, as well as self-esteem!  

There are also cultural and role-model considerations, which  could write another book on.  I'll cut to the chase here, in respect to brevity and refer you to a couple of excellent books: Inside Transracial Adoption and In Their Own Voices.

You've got a long time before you'd be able to adopt, so you can read some books now, if you like!

Good luck!

Answer 8

isnt that a "coinky dink" i'm 15 and i truly want to adopt kids in the future and i think its perfectly find that you are considering adopting a child or children in the near future from different races what i feel is that the good think is your gonna adopt anyway saving a child

Answer 9

I think that is wonderful! Just stay focused, when you are a bit older, you can start out by doing something like Big Brothers and Big Sisters. I have wanted to do that since I was 15 as well, now that I am 23, I realize that I don't have the experience that it takes to adopt a troubled child. My husband and I want to in the future when we have raised our own though. If we can't have children, we plan on waiting until 30 or 35, maybe even 40 to adopt.

If you are black (which your avatar kind of looks like, but I'm not sure) then definitely adopt black kids. I think that it would help the child on many emotional levels to have a parent that looks like them if at all possible. Not to say that you shouldn't adopt others, but as many black kids as there are out there that need parents, why not help them first. There are LOTS of them in foster homes. It kind of looks like there are more black kids than kids of any other race in the homes actually.

Here is a list of the adoptable kids by state:

http://adoption.about.com/od/adoptingbys...

It's enough to break your heart.

Good luck! I am sure that you will make a great parent one day!

Answer 10

you have so much time available to decide.  Just for now focus on FUN FUN FUN.

Answer 11

I think it is perfectly NORMAL to consider adoption as one of the ways you might want to build your family...  I did when I was your age.....

Some people are more concerned with Helping Others... Some people don't need to have a replication of themselves--some people care about the fact that there are Children needing families...

When there are no more children needing families then there won't be anymore bitter attitudes about adoption... Until then, believing that YOU can make a difference and give a child a good home and life is a wonderful goal.

Answer 12

I think its fine adopt out of your race. I am a african american girl who was adopted by a white family..but sometimes i really hate it because none of the other black kids at school want to talk to me because my family is white and i am not. sometimes i find it very hard to be living with a diffrent race.

Answer 13

Race should never be a factor. When you are honestly serious it should never enter your mind. True love like mother to child sees no color in my opinion. I had to give my daughter up for adoption and I ache for her every day. When you do finally have children, adopted or natural you will understand.

You are as you said only 15, you have years to explore your world, take advantage of it. The more knowledge you aquire, the more you will have to pass on to your children.

Some day no one will see race, creed, or color when they look at their neighbor. We would all see just what God created us to be. Wouldn't that be a glorious day.

I hope that I have helped you in some way.

Answer 14

You know, most kids like you at 15 years old think about fashion and going to the mall