I would love to have children, but my worst fear in the world is childbirth. I am so afraid of the pain.?

Question

Can anyone tell me anything that will help to ease my fears? My worst fear in the world is labor pains, but I want children, please help.

Answer 1

believe me the pain is worth it. you could have a painless delivery it is called an epidural.

Answer 2

Once you have that little bundle of joy in your arms you with think labor pains schmabor pains, who cares! Plus nowadays there are so many things offered at the hospital to relieve your pain and make you as comfotable as possible.  You know "back in the day" like when our grandparents were born they didn't offer anything. Most of the time you just give birth at your house, with no pain meds or epidural or anything.  Can you imagine?  I can't! Nowadays they give you an epidural, which is a GIANT shot like thing right into your spine, along with IV pain meds and even sometimes vaginally they give you pills right into your cervix.  It's not THAT bad and it's something you will just have to deal with if you want a baby...or just adopt if you're really that scared!

Answer 3

Labor can be incredibly rough, no doubt about it. But it's not so bad that you can't handle it - if it were, women would never have more than one child.

Trust yourself and know that you'll be able to deal with the pain when it comes. Women have been having babies since the beginning of time, even before epidurals and other pain medication. If billions of women over the entire course of history can make it through labor, so can you.

Answer 4

Sweetie, you don't need an Epidural for this. Natural Childbirth is one of the most amazing things you will ever encounter. There are many ways to make your labor easier. The first is to refuse to be induced. Pitocin makes your contractions harder, longer and with shorter time in between. Also by refusing pitocin you can manage without an epidural and that means you can walk, rock, squat, and just in general move during your labor which makes it easier and faster. It also opens your pelvis up wider because your not flat on your back. I would get on the internet and start my researching Natural Childbirth, hypnobirthing, orgasmic births, birthing from within, motheringdotcommune, Ina May Gaskin, Midwifery and things along that line. There is a secret in today's culture, it's not that birth is painful..it's that women are strong. I would also watch the Business of Being Born. I can assure you that after a few months of reading about Natural Birth and different methods you will no longer be afraid, but enlightened and empowered.  

Answer 5

The pain sounds horrible but trust me you wont even remember how it felt the second you see your little angel. Almost any mother will tell you that.

also their are many pain options that work wonders!

an epidural will numb you from the waste down. And you wont feel it at all

Answer 6

its painful.

its not that serious. its beautiful.  going through all the pain, for that precious baby.  its so worth it.  

epidural, meditation, laughing gas etc. can help.  

Answer 7

That was me! I would bungee jump, I am a roller coaster junkie and childbirth scared me more than ANYTHING! I was always scared for the reason that 1) a living human baby is growing inside you (thats scary enough), 2) your body does some strange things to prepare for baby (your pelvis spreads, your "you know what" dialates to 10 centimeters). The whole thought of a babys head AND body coming out of your "you know what".Not to mention the fact that based on religious scripture THAT WAS GODS JUDGEMENT FOR EVE EATING THE APPLE. SO I figured that c**p cant be good at all! All of those factors used to scare the holy @#$% out of me too. HOWEVER, it sounds a whole lot worse then it really is and take it from experience.... it isnt as bad as it sounds. Women were made by God and Genetic Heredity to carry and deliver babies (some women just need extra help ie fertility drugs etc..) One you concieve, USUALLY in a healty woman nature takes over and things usually go fine, as long as you take care of yourself (dont drink, excessively exercise etc). Doctors monitor you alot to see how MOM and BABY are and to see that everything goes smoothly.Labor contractions feel like your stomach tightenes up and the muscles harden on their own and then they relax. When labor gets intense it feels like bad stomach cramps. In most normal cases women dialate so the baby has plenty of room to come out. I have known one woman that had natural childbirth 4 (YES 4) times, and two women that had it three times. They said that there is about 30 mintues of intense pain and that is the pushing part. They all said that it was rewarding. There are always epidural option too. They numb your from the stomach down. I had hard labor with my baby and felt quite a bit even with the epidural. iI previously worked out and was told by doctor thats why I could handle hard labor better. Honestly, after doing it once now that I am on my second baby, I have thought about doing it naturally. (no drugs). You cant let the fear of childbirth keep your from having a baby. Having a baby is the most rewarding experience on earth and it is truly a gift. It isnt as bad as it sounds. It used to scare me too just like you. It is worth it. With good doctors and you taking care of yourself and baby....youll be just fine

Answer 8

Hello There,

Yes, labor pain is h**l. One of the worst pain there is. I don't mean to scare you. I really don't. Even though the pain is really bad it's the BEST pain that you'll ever have. Look at the wonderful gift you have after you go through all the labor pain. It's worth ALL the pain in the whole world. I was afraid to but I have two gorgeous daughters. I would never change that pain, ever or regret that pain. I went through natural birth because I wanted to experience every thing about having my girls. Even though I swore and begged them to just pull that baby out. Once that baby is born the pain goes away and then you see that beautiful baby that you made as they lay the baby on your chest. Nothing else matters and you forget about the pain that you just went through at least for awhile. You brought this wonderful life into the world to love. To be a mother. You can be scared. Every woman is. But please don't let that stop you from becoming a mother. There are medications that can ease your pain. You can have a spinal tap to. You would be numb from the waste down. And there's nothing wrong with doing that. The meds etc will not hurt your baby. Go for it. Experience the pain of becoming a new mom. You'll be so glad that you did. Experience it all. Don't miss out on the life that you will create. I hope that this will ease your fear of having that precious baby. Good Luck to you.

Answer 9

you have to look at it like....its one day. You waited all this time to have the baby and now you just have to get through a few hours of pain. Its not that big when you look at the whole picture.

Answer 10

I can tell you that there are so many more worst fears that you should have besides giving birth.  What about nuclear war, another attack on the US these should be your worst fears.  The pain from child birth can be controlled with pain meds and the pain will go away after birth.

I am sorry but this should not be your worst fear.

Answer 11

If everyone thought of this nobody would reproduce.  I will not lie labor is very painful, but it is the most rewarding experiencing in your life.  For some people it isn't that bad and besides they can give you things to help with the pain.  I'll tell you my story, with my son I was induced into labor as soon as i started to feel pain i asked for an epidural (it blocks the pain in your abdomen) after getting this i slept and was able to enjoy the delivery, i delivered my son and didn't feel any pain at all.  With my daughter i was in labor all day and didn't even know it because my contractions were not painful I just had the tightning in my lower abdomen then after 6 hours i started to get painful contractions i rushed to the hosp and within an hour i delivered her.  Once you deliver the pain is over (if you have a vaginal delivery) if you have a c-sec you will need time to heal from surgery.  Everyone is afraid of labor, but depending on how old you are once you get a little older the want for a baby will outway the pain you may experience during childbirth.  remeber childbirth laboring is temporary and will go away your child will be with you forever. good luck

Answer 12

Before anyone can 'ease your fears' we would need to understand why you are so afraid.  

Do you understand that labor pain is normal, and doesn't mean anything is physically wrong with you?

Do you understand that contractions are intermittent -- if you are in labor for 12 hours, that ISN'T 12 hours of continuous pain?

Do you understand that there are many available methods of reducing the pain of labor, or at least making it easier to cope with?  This can range from breathing exercises and laboring in water, right up to an epidural that numbs everything from the waist down.

If you really want children, don't let fear of labor stop you.  You are in labor for, at most a day or so per baby.  You then get to enjoy your child for the rest of your life!

Answer 13

There are some ways to ease the pain, like epidural.

And one can have pains, other can have none.

And nobody dies from pains :D

Answer 14

Let me tell ya. I am the biggest baby in the world when it comes to pain. To give an example. when I was 18, I needed a final MMr shot that I never got. It took my mother and a nurse to chase me and make me hold my arm down to get the shot, remember I was 18 years old, but SO afraid of pain.

I am 26 now and have a soon to be 4 year old daughter. I wont lie, labor hurt and to top it off, I ended up having an emergency c-section when all was said and done.

To be perfectly honest, I don't remember a whole lot of it. I have asked other mothers my age if they remember how painful their births of their children were and, they told me not really.

I think the way we are designed is that yes, no matter how we psyche ourselves out, we can tolerate the pain of childbirth but once all said and done, I think we are wired to not remember all the pain exactly. We remember it hurt, but, we don't harp on it. And trust me, you are so concerned about getting that baby out, you really are not too focused on the pain itself, more about pushing and just ending it because it is a fight. But it really is worth it and an epidural helps a great deal!

I was once afraid of needles and scared to death of child birth but now, i will have 100 babies and you can stick me with all the needles you want. Having my daughter basically made me overcome my fear of pain.