I write letters to my dead Gma, do I need let go of her?

Question

My grandma died 6 years ago and it was really hard to handle. I finally was able to let it go last year around christmas time but I felt like I was losing her completey because I wasn't thinking about her as often as I usually did. So I decided to right her letters so I have a notebook specially for that and atleast once a week I'll right her a letter. Is that to over the top, do I need therapy?

Thanks

Answer 1

  It's OK.you love her and miss her, and this is your way of staying connected to her in some way, and to let her know you are thinking about her and miss her. But I don't think your Gma wants you to dwell on this to the extent you are missing out on the things in life that you should be enjoying.You're going to get over the loss and enjoy your life again, because that's what your Gma wants you do do.

Answer 2

you will let go when you are ready.  

Answer 3

I think you're coping in the best way you know how. Go to therapy if you think you need the help, perhaps grief counseling. Understand that you can let go, that your grandma probably wouldn't want you to grieve over her loss forever, etc.

Answer 4

Someone to talk to would be helpful and may help with your grief but I think the notebook idea is a really good one. In fact, I may use it :)

Answer 5

only you know if you need therapy....

i think your letter/notebook solution is a fantastic way to heal the pain that has been so hard for you to deal with. we should all be so simplisticly resourceful.

there is nothing wrong with keeping her spirit alive in you.

Answer 6

I think that is actually pretty reasonable. If you were close to her then that is a good thing. Just because her physical body is gone, don't feel the need to detatch yourself from her fun loving energy.

Answer 7

Writing letters is a really great way to deal with things. When i was younger i would write letters to various people and never send them but it helped me get all my thoughts in the right order and to get everything of my chest. I have recently started doing the same kind o thing and it is making me feel better.

It helps you so why shouldn't you do it?! You will let go of her and move on when you are ready quite naturally. Maybe you have already but you still need to write letters just to get things of your chest and manage your thoughts?!