I wrote a letter to my husband in prison... I think he's disappointed with some thing I wrote in >>>

Question

I wrote in some of the following sentences :

*"If you want to be living life like it's a ***** and not caring about

anyone nor yourself and treat life like it's cheap, then I don't

want to continue something that is only going to cause

nothing but pain that is unnecessary. I'm not impressed"

(how would you interpret it)

*I'm not even going to go the "but you promised you would"

and the "but you said you would" way, I knew better I knew what

I should've expected".

(how would you interpret it)

"What if you have children in the future ? Would you like them to be without their parent"

(how would you interpret it)

"Is being locked up what you want out of life ?"

(how would you interpret it)

I'm only asking how you would interpret these sentences,

are they offensive ?

I'm not looking for advice on whether I should leave or not..

thanks

Answer 1

wow those are some harsh words

Answer 2

I would interpret those words as harsh.

Only because your husband is where he is. Regardless of why he is there. Being in prison he has no way of knowing what you are doing or thinking from one moment to the next.

Put yourself in his position, I'm not asking for you to sympathise with him, just the fact that he has no way of reaching you, or a very limited way. I'm pretty sure that nobody wants to be locked up for all of their life. What if? is just adding more fuel to the fire.

It reads to me like you have told him you don't want to continue with him because you don't want to go through unneccessary pain, that kind of says it all.

That is how it reads to me. Good Luck. :)

Answer 3

How long is he in there?

I think that you being upset about him not being there and wanting to know if he wants to be better, is normal.  He shouldn't  punish you. Maybe you should wait till he responds. If he doesn't answer your questions. Then you'll know he got pissy. (like all men)

I think those are reasonable questions. But he maybe feeling attacked so hes gonna shut down. (like all men)

I think you know where all this is going. You know what to do.

Answer 4

Yes, harsh words, but sometimes people need to hear harsh words or something extreme to realise what they are going to loose.

You have given him a choice, now its all up to him and I think that is good, you can't keep getting stuffed around.

Answer 5

I think you need to stop second-guessing yourself and listen to your intuition.

You wrote that letter for a reason- If you know your intentions and your motivations, then you already have the answer to this question.