IF YOU ARE DEPRESSED...WHY? (lets let it out here- and share our feelings)?

Question

i am depressed b/c i am a single mom (of a one month old) raising him and paying bills all alone (family are busy with their own kids and working. friends are busy with their own life and working) i can't really afford daycare..but i need to return to work to make ends meet!!

i went thru 9 months of pregnancy ALONE..went thru 9 hours of labor ALONE..and now its been 5 weeks since i have raised my son ALONE. on top of that..i worked everyday up until my water broke (i even drove myself to the hospital)..

i live ALONE...take care of all my bills ALONE (rent..car insurance..utilities..phone..cable/inter... and on top of all that i pay for diapers..etc..the list goes on.. ALL ALONE...

the father of the baby has it easy. he denies its his, so NOW we gotta go thru a whole process of filing child support and getting paternity test. he's probably out having a good d**n time..while i am stuck here raising his child..

if u don't call that a "strong girl" then i don't know what is?!

Answer 1

I wish I could help you. I mean i'm only thirteen but I wish I could help you.

I used to get depressive because i'm not comfortable with anything anymore. It's hard to explain I guess I don't know but I hope you can get through everything and I hope everything goes alright. Take care.

Answer 2

Not only you are a strong woman, but also a brave one! you have faced your problems, you haven't let them win you so I really admire you. Of course you feel like that because you are human.

I had depression, but it was a long time ago, when I lived with my parents and when I was going to highschool. I had lost all of my friends and my parents where always fighting and arguing and yelling to each other, so I felt like nobody in the world cared about me neighter loved me. My parents where too busy with themselves and they loved my sister more than me, that's what I thogut, I had no friends and so, I even tried to kill myself, you don't know how does it feel when you are 15 it's like you have no reason to exist.

But then I started praying to god, and I'm completly sure that he saved me because one night I was crying alone at night with the lights turned off (my parents never realised that something was wrong with me wich made me feel even worst) and I started to pray like this: please god, I know you don't approve suicide so please kill me cuz I'm suffering! or make my life happy, I beg you! and stuff like that, suddenly I felt like my head was on a lap and a hand rubbing my head in a fatherly way, with so much love! it all happenned in a second, and I stopped crying inmediatly, because at first it surprised me, but then I felt all that overwhelming love... and then my depression was gone, for good. Of course I didn't had any real motive to be depressed, but god putt all that away from me, now, 8 years later I'm still a happy person.

Later my parents got separated. and I started to be afraid, I didn't believed in love anymore, I started to think that all men were stupid, or ugly, or jerks, or pervs, or sexist, or rudes and swearing and stuff I also though that if love existed, it wasn't for me because every guy I knew were a bunch of jerks, I really liked no one because I didn't know any men  with a descent personality, then I started to be afraid of my future, I started to wonder whether I'd end up all alone in my life, living alone while my friend had their families, and their grandsons and stuff And then I prayed to god like this: lord, if love is true I beg you to make me fall in love of a man with good feelings, and polite, and one that is not sexist and who doesn't swear, a mature one, please! I'd really would like to fall in love with someone like that and get a familly and be together til the death -because if it's not a thing for ever then it's not worth it- someone loyal, and who really falls in love with me someone to make a family, the happy family I didn't had a kid.

The next day a guy who allways called my attention physically gave me a ride to the highschool he wasn't on my class and it really surprised me when he calle dmy name because whe hadn't talked ever and we didn't have any common friend... he was such a gentleman! and polite! and smart! and hot! and he so had a crush on me! he got too nervous and I had a crush on him. of course when he choose a career that I disgust too much I pushed him away from me. Even if we never got to anything together I think that that was a signal from god trying to tell me that there is someone for me out there, even if I'm so exigent, even if the personality and values I look for in a men are almost extinted, I mean, that guy was in my highschool since always... I just hadn't notice him before.

What I'm trying to say, is that if you pray yto god with faith, he'll answer to you, trust me, I don't have any reason to lie you, I'm saying the true. and you loose absolutly nothing by trying.  in the bible, it says that God is always trying to enter in your life, and once you let him in he protects you and stuff. it also says that if you ask with faith, he'll help you (but not if you ask something like kill that b*****d, of course xD)

You now have to know this: you have to fight for your happyness no matter what, don't let those problems win you! YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY, repeat this every time you feel like quiting YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY, and YOU WILL.  Maybe things are ugly now, but if you fight, and if you ask God to help you, h**l answer you. you can't say you don't believe in god just because bad stuff happens to you bad stuff happens because god gave us free will, and our mistakes have their consecuences. and also because bad peopple exist, like that son of a *****! but god, once you let him enter in your life protect you from all of that. and he also will help you make good choices.

you also need to pay attention to peopple around you, there are a lot of bad persons out there, you have to learn not trusting any person, there are lyers and there are pervs, and selfidh peopple.

just do the following thing: first, pray to god, even if you don't believe in him like this: if you really exist, I beg you to show me your love and help me solve my problems and be happy, I beg you to enter in my life, and make me a wise person please put in my life good people good friends who help me and then just start talking from your soul, you won't regret it. I also recomend you to read Jhon in the bible but not without asking god for you to understand it completly,.

Answer 3

ok.... my parents got divorced when i was 2. and my mom is still single. she went through h**l trying to figure out life. but you will find that it's all worth it.... i hope.... just try to be happy that your child is healthy. talk to your relatives about it.... your close friends... anybody... but on here you can't really get the help that you need. if you want to vent start talking to your baby... i'm not even kidding....just try it

Answer 4

I also was alone throughout my pregnancy 5 months of it. When I gave birth, I was in the hospital room with just the nurses and doctor. My parents didn't come. My husband was out of the country and for the first 3 months of her life I had no help from anyone. I'll help you in whatever way I can, by giving you advice, since I've been in your shoes. You'll make it through sweetie. I did. Get all the support you can from the state. You'll be fine in the end, just stay strong and think about how much better it will be when hes 2 years old sleeping through the night and telling you how much he loves you, his mommy.

Answer 5

If that "man" can even deny his own blood. HE ISN'T WORTH YOUR TIME!

Answer 6

I'm terribly depressed right now...Things aren't going well for me either:Single mom, works in a school district but off for the summer, just started a job at Target today, won't get paid for 3 weeks, have $24.00 in my bank account and .12 in savings, no money to buy ANYTHING, daughter just turned 19, feeling old since her birthday, I turn 48 this year, UGGGGG

thanks for letting me post...

Answer 7

I was depressed cuz my son was taken away :( 8 mos later... I am skinnier than I was b/f I got pregnant !!! :$ :(  I don't know if I'm still depressed or whatever but I don't eat... much anywayz... :( I would love to get all my baby fat back !!!! :(  I have high metabolism :(

Answer 8

Let is go!!  CRY!!!  You deserve to have a moment of weakness!!  Just remember that you are not alone.  You do have your son, and you have strangers praying for you!  You can do this and you are teaching your son how to be an independant, strong and powerful person!  Treat yourself to a hot shower and 30 minutes of tears.  Then, pick yourself back up and do what you have to do to provide for your child!  Good luck and you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 9

I'm glad you are getting him involved.You need to make him responsible.You are going to wear yourself out if he doesn't step up.Force it don't let this go.Be glad that you are your child's main influence,but as far as money...he'd better help!Everyone is BUSY?Come on can't someone show some compassion?Some support?You need to find some good friends.Even if they had you over for a meal or gave you an hour to yourself to rejuvenate.I hope all works out.If I was your friend I would help ya.

Answer 10

you are strong and that is something to be very proud of girl. Call welfare they can help with food at least and other things and if the father really is the father you'll get money from him and that will help too. You are strong and your little one will be too.

Answer 11

you are strong, and im sure you'll find someone good for you eventually.

im depressed because my highschool girlfriend (later on wife) cheated on me after two years of marriage..with my best friend.

Answer 12

dear friend ,you are never alone .

just think about all you have done and give thanks to god above for he will and has seen you through many things .he will never forsake you and in your hour of need will be there for you ,if only you ask. if you dont know how or just need a helping hand in asking god for help just give me a holler and i will pray with you for you ,but know he is always walking with you and sometimes carries you through the rough stuff .

Answer 13

you are very strong...but you arent alone anymore :) that little person is going to be there for the rest of your life, i hope you remember  that and dont be too depressed. someone needs you