IF your mom didnt like your fiance would you still marry her?

Question

IF your mom didnt like your fiance would you still marry her? My fiances mom hates me and Ive done nothing to her. We actually spent about 30 hrs in a car together to go visit her son before he went to the war..but once she found out he proposed she's pissed and wont answer his phone calls now! I want to tell him to give her time but I feel like he'll do what he wants and if he doesnt go through with it then he's a pus*y, i think she doesnt want him to marry me because Ive beenmarried and divorced already, But she thinks I will have a problem with him supporting family in the philippines, but I dont! Because I have family there too that I will support when I can afford it! So what should I do? Should I talk with him? or just let things be..

Answer 1

Been there done that.

I am a Christian American and in 5 weeks I marry a Russian Immigrant. His mother dislikes me to the core and every time she sees me she makes that loud and clear...My fiance birthday was 2 weeks ago and she wrote in his card "Sina, You are about to make the biggest mistake of your life, but if you change your mind, I will support you. Happy Birthday Love Mom.



His mother has a real problem with him marrying outside his culture...A real problem..Well I told her, if you have a problem with your son marrying an american, you should of stayed in Russia. Man was she pissed but got the hint.

..............So in 5 weeks, were going to get married and be happy as can be..And in 3 years when I tell her were going to raise our children as Christian Americans,..I will be the one having the last laugh.

Answer 2

no because obviously she is seeing something i dont and sooner or later your going to wake up and realize you wasted yourself on someone who was never meant for you

Answer 3

my mil didn't like me @ 1st neither. it took time for her to cool down & realize that we really met a lot to each other give her time to cool down. u may have said sumthing innocent that rubbed her the wrong way. i do that all the time with my sil. congrats and good luck!!!!!

Answer 4

You need to let him make his own decisions. If you talk with him and try to convince him then it won't truly be his decision - then you will always have to wonder if you forced him into doing something. He needs to come to his own conclusions.

In the meantime, you might want to try to make peace with the mother. Perhaps you can write her an email or a letter and address some of the issues you think she isn't clear about in regards to your life.

It's a really tough situation - I don't know what I would have done if my mom didn't like my fiance. I am really close with her - definitely would have been a tough decision; but it would have been one that I would have needed to make on my own.

Answer 5

you should definitly talk to him about it ... i mean it obviously bothers u and thats understandable... My mom doesnt like my fiance and we're still getting married in 2 weeks!!! she was pissy the whole time but now that its closer to the actual day she has kinda calmed down a bit and realized that theres nothing she can do to stop us. i mean it took time but u really shouldnt care what other people think and he should be able to stick up for himself too.. it was hard to go against my mom i mean we were  really close and after i got engaged we didnt talk for months! :(   but the past few weeks things have gotten back to normal and in 2 weeks 2 the day 08-08-08 I will be the happiest woman in the world!  

good luck and hope it all works out!

Answer 6

That's a tough position to be in. My step mom doesn't like my fiance any more than he likes her, but that doesn't change how we feel about each other. We're still going through with our wedding. They've both come to realize that no matter what they have to get along. Maybe in time she'll come around, it could happen. I wish you the best.