IM 5 MONTHS PREGNANT & FOUND OUT MY BABY FATHER HAS another CHILD ON THE WAY...?

Question

Im so upset, stressed out & embarassed I dont know what to do all I feel is regrets for getting pregnant for him. I would have never thought he would do something like that..we broke for it and now we barely even speak,he never call to see how im doing! but i keep him up to date on doc. appt ect....I cant help but feel like i dont want my child, sometimes i wish i have gotten an abbortion and cant deal with the fact that im going to have to deal with him for the rest of my life..i hate him now..i thought my feelings would change and i would be happy about the baby but im not! ive been feeling like this for almost my whole pregnancy!

Answer 1

Talk to a councilor, but if you think that is really the way you feel then it may be best to consider adoption. Adoption is a great option for your child if you feel that you would be unable to care for him fully or would deny him your love. Just because you give a child up for adoption doesnt mean you dont love them or are a bad person. Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 2

be strong... you don't have to be with him romantically to raise a happy healthy child. Do what you've got to do, demand he take care of his half of your child, and if he doesn't, then that just means more time with the baby for you. I know it's not a great thing to think about, but if it comes to it, you wouldn't be the first or last single mother. Enjoy your pregnancy, it's a wonderful experience, and you don't need a boyfriend/husband to enjoy it.

Answer 3

Don't blame the child.  Men are jerks.  You can take care of yourself and your baby.  In time, you will find someone better than him.  If you stress it isn't good for the baby.  Regrets, wishful thinking, and pouting aren't going to get you anywhere.  You have to take care of your baby and yourself.  Things will get better.

Answer 4

Talk to a professional counselor.

Answer 5

If you really feel that way about the baby then you would be best to just put the baby up for adoption.  If the father isn't involved he may have no problem agreeing to the adoption and then you two will never have to speak again after the baby is born and all the paperwork is done.

Answer 6

Ok, I know you are hurt...but that baby is still part you. You need to disconnect your feelings for your child from your feelings from the father. That baby isn't his father. Nor is it you. Don't punish or regret that beautiful baby bc the daddy is a nutcase. (No offence) I would definately try and get sole custody...but that is STILL his child..I kind of hate my baby daddy right now..but It is still HIS baby too. These are thing you have to think about now. Don't keep your baby away from his daddy. He hasn't done anything bad to that child. just you. Please think about the baby and make the best of what you have.

Answer 7

Been there done that... My current husband and the father of my two children was a marine when we met and I ended up knocked up with our son.  Well, he got out of the military a few weeks after we met and he went to MN with his family and I was in FL with mine.  When I was 6 or 7 months preggers, I found out that he got this other woman preggers in MN too.  Well, we'd only seen each other once since our son was conceived.  We did end up working things out- and since then have had a daughter.  It all depends on the circumstances.  I felt sick for about a week after hearing about her being pregnant.  But not once did I ever take it out on the child.  He or she is innocent.  That baby is 50% you as well.  Also, you don't have to deal with him at all, unless you want to.  Don't go out of your way to contact him or give him the attention he doesn't deserve- let him crawl to you for the crumbs of the life he's missing out on because he screwed up.  He's the one who made a mistake and now he has to pay for it.  Make him pay.  As a wife of a man who pays child support,  I still am okay with him paying it.  That child deserves something from his/her father, and you are the one who needs to make sure he/she gets it.  You can go ahead and go to your state and see about filing for it now before your child is born- trust me it'll make things easier actually.

Answer 8

I'm really sorry to hear this, what a scum bag!

if you still feel this way when you see your child theres always adoption.