IM GETTING MARRIED JULY 18 OF 2009 IM EXCITED ABOUT IT I DONT GET THE SAME FEELING FROM MY FIANCEE. HELP ME?

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IM GETTING MARRIED JULY 18 OF 2009 IM EXCITED ABOUT IT I DONT GET THE SAME FEELING FROM MY FIANCEE. HELP ME?

Answer 1

Honestly, he may be more excited about the honeymoon than the wedding. This is not personal nor does it mean he is not excited about getting married, the wedding is really for the girl and the guy just goes along with it. There are guys who get as into planning the wedding as the bride, but very rarely, don't take it personally if he does not. A wedding is typically fancy, a long drawn out process, and guys normally do not have a long enough attention span; some rather skip the wedding all together, but they don't because they know how important it is to their bride. If you feel as if this is not it, then I suggest you have a serious conversation with him before you marry him and plan to spend the rest of your life with him. You two definitely need to be on the same page before making such a big commitment. Good luck!

Answer 2

Men are wired differently! To him 2009 will seem a very long way away, and his interest in the wedding is unlikely to stretch much further than the food, the drink, the honeymoon and which of his friends are invited. That's normal!

Answer 3

They dont get excited like we do...the bachelor party they do but all this planning they could care less about. When it gets close he will start getting a little more excited..as long as you get the feeling he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, if he acts like hes dreading it you got a problem!

Answer 4

Well first off Congrats!!!!!  I know the excited feeling, getting married in April here.  My fiance is happy I know that but he's not psyched like I am to plan.  I am a very anal organized woman who has everything done already and he is fine with that.  He says he doesn't care how or where we do it as long as we get married.  It's not that your fiance is not thrilled but don't expect him to do cartwheels otherwise you will be disappointed.  He does not care about napkin colors or centerpieces.  Take him to appointments that he is interested in, DJ, cake, food, and the other ones, let him off the hook and take a family member or girlfriend.  Trust me if you talk to him that is the real issue.  It's the way they are and that's ok.  

Answer 5

Well the whole wedding thing is not for the male it's for us, the woman.

we get all excited, can't wait to start planning our dream wedding and the men are laid back just waiting for the day. Don't be upset  he loves you and feels the same way but just won't show it. It's a man thing.

Girl jsut plan your dream wedding.

Answer 6

I would tell him that you get that impression and see what he says! Men can be funny sometimes( Sorry guys!) he is probably feeling the same as you ! I was lucky as my normally quiet guy really came to life and got really involved in our wedding!

Make sure you include him in all the planning too!  

Answer 7

men dont show emotions like we do! so even if he doesnt "seem" excited, im sure he is! why else would he have proposed to you? unless you are worth millions, i would just relax and enjoy eachother!

Answer 8

I'm getting married in 3 weeks and my fiance doesn't seem excited. I was upset about it, and I asked him what his deal was.

He said: "Raina, I don't care about all the little details of the wedding. I don't care about guest lists, or cakes, or doilies. The only thing that I do care about is you. As long as it's me and you at this wedding, I could care less about the details."

...And that really put everything into perspective. As first glance, this comment seemed really a*****e-ish. But when you get to the message, it really was a sweet thing to say.

So maybe this gave you insight? I can't promise that you're guy feels the same, but maybe he does. Hope this helped.  

Answer 9

he's feeling the same way you are but he won't express like you cause men hold their feelings inside.

Answer 10

Don't  worry that's how all men are my husband was the same way..Men don't show their excitement the same way women do.Me and my mother did everything for my wedding, Yes he was there to agree or disagree, pick out tux etc ...but he was not half excited as I was..And we are still happily married for 24 yrs.. Good luck to you..

Answer 11

Tina, men don't get excited about all of the planning and everything.  They get stressed out about plans.  It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or doesn't want to get married.

Frankly, if he was very involved in all of the planning and wanted to be consulted on each little detail of the wedding, I would be concerned that he might be playing for the wrong team, so to speak.

Consult him about little things, but not every little detail.  Have him come up with his guest list, and ask if he has any special requests and get started with your planning.

Congratulations!