IS........IS ..it just me??????????

Question

or does anyone else have a problem with there MOTHERS rummaging through there drawers,and telling you how to raise your kids????????? honestly sometimes i could do a joan of R and burn it at the stake??????????????

Answer 1

you may be fed up with your mum but believe me you will miss her when she isnt around anymore

try and tell her how you feel about what she is doing, maybe she needs a little reminder that she is overstepping the mark

Answer 2

...........it's just you.

Answer 3

next time you are at her house start going through her drawers, If she asks you why explain to her that this is what you were wondering also. Lots of the time people don't understand how invasive or disturbing an action can be till it's done to them. (example: when my son was a toddler i use to l**k my finger and use it to clean something off his face. One day he licked his finger and put it on my face, i said "yuk", he said "see how it feels" I never did it to him again)

Answer 4

Bullied daughter- in- laws should be allowed to burn interfering old bats at the stake.

Answer 5

I let all that go in one ear, out the other.

Least said, soonest mended and all that.

They won't listen anyway :-)

Answer 6

invasion of privacy

Answer 7

She shouldn't be rummaging through your personal things.  Tell her politely and calmly (I know you're angry-but still) that you would like her to please stop invading your privacy.  Ask her if she would like it if other people went through her stuff.

Do this diplomatically!  If she is the type to argue and get angry/loud then you MUST do the opposite if you want to solve anything.

Answer 8

Just slam the drawer shut while her fingers are in there.  Bet she doesn't rummage any more!  Just teasin.  My mother would only rummage thru a drawer at my house if I asked her to. so it must just be her personality.  Ask her to mind her own and she might be insulted but she WILL stop.

Answer 9

Nope not just you its not my mother but my mother in law who goes threw my stuff and tries to tell me how to raise my kids. If she is liveing with you kick her butt out and let her know you will raise them the way you feel fit. You can always tell her i am a adult and i didn't have s*x with you and you didn't produce this kid so you have no reason to tell me how to raise them. You have to stand up for your self and let her know she can't keep doing that and if she dose she risks the fact you may not let her see your kids because of her actions.

Answer 10

I think it's just you.

I also think you are bored today.

Answer 11

god my mom's parents do that to her, and she gets irritated but still listens to them. it really pisses me off. she can't let her parents rule her life, she has to make her own choices, not them!!! and if i tell her that she can't let her parents rule her life, she gets pissed at me!!!

tell her that she's invading your privacy and you don't like it. ask her how would she feel if you always went looking through her stuff. god i hate people who can't mind their own business and always invade other peoples' things!

tell her to mind her own business, but do it nicely

Answer 12

i hate it too. once i hid her mother's day present there and she must have seen it but pretended not to   x

please can you help?

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Answer 13

yes everyone has problems with there mums but u love her and u wouldnt want to hurt her. she only does wat she does because she loves u

Answer 14

You need to tell your mother that this is not going to work.  Tell her that you have your own family and your own life now and that as much as you want her to apart of your life and your kids' lives, you need some boundarys.

You need to tell her how you feel because honestly, she may just not be aware that she's being invasive.

Answer 15

i hate being told wut to do!!! too.

Answer 16

I understand.  I have had problems with my parents going through my house when I wasn't home.  In my case my parents have a very, very set pattern of abuse, so reasoning with them is an exercise in futility.

In each situation there are different circumstances.  If I were dealing with a nervous Nelly type mother I might try a gentle conversation and set some boundaries.  In my case I had to lay down the law firmly and tell them they are not welcome in my home unless they treat us right.  In either situation, changing the locks helps and depending on the situation gently or firmly refuse to give out a spare.  If you just change the locks you may not even have to discuss it.  It just depends.

All relationships need healthy boundaries and if you come from a family like mine where there is a history of punishment for having them, it can be a lengthy journey to try to establish some.  However, it is worth it especially when you are trying to raise emotionally healthy kids.  Otherwise your kids will grow up confused about how much other pple should be allowed to do to them.  This is a recipe for the kids, once adults, to end up in abusive relationships.

Here is a website that explains what boundaries are and why they are important;

http://www.cottesloecounselling.com.au/d...

Answer 17

mother in laws u mean and mothers are terrible

Answer 18

Sorry dude, you're on your own there..