IS MY B/F hiding something or what?

Question

my b/f is from india and now goes to college in america, weve been dating for 6 months, he says that he cant tell his family ( they r muslim im not) that we are together not because im white or american but because in india the culture is different and it is tradition there to wait till the eldest brother is married first before him, so that is is reason for not telling them about me, he has been in india visiting family for 2 wks and so far has called me 3 times for only i minute or so , he always acts like he has to get off the phone really quick and he has never acted like that until he got there, but he does say i miss u and ilove u? whats the deal does it sound like he has another wife or something?lol

Answer 1

Hi, I think you should give him sometime. He must be in a lot of pressure trying to balance his love life and family life. Give him the support he requires now.

Later, you can sit with him and sort out how you will handle things/problems that you forsee. Am sure he would have thought of some way. Else you both can sit together and find a way out.

Finally, once you talk to him face to face; your instincts will certainly tell you what should be believed and what not. so if it says he's true; believe it and help him out.

Answer 2

Hey

i am an Indian living in US...

see the problem with us (indians) is.. we dont leave ppl alone... we always want them around us ( not that we are g*y)...

I was in India a year ago and BELEIVE me i never got a minute for myself. My cousins/friends were with me the WHOLE TIME.... so like whenever i had to call anyone here... i had to like make a VERY good excuse so they dont come with me....

and also Indian parent wants their childerns near them the whole time and since THEY met him after years... they probably wont leave him alone.....

also... i dont know how he calls you... if hes using a pay phone... he probably has to go out somewhere to make those calls and also talking in english (american accent) would gather more attention..

also:

about the OTHER replies...

Indians (excluding me (heheheh)) like to touch each other.. friendly touch... but their parents would NEVER agree for same s*x marriage.....

and about him being engaged... PROBABLY NOT... wait MOST LIKELY NOY...  only ...(old, traditional and ppl living in rural india)... ppl do that.... and he doesnt sound like one..

dont worry... :) Hope this helps

Answer 3

Probably he has been engaged in India since he was a child, I'm sure that he loves you but its not easy to tell his family that his GF is an outsider. He probably needs time to explain that he will not continue with his ethnic rituals and traditions, but be aware that will take him many months or years before making his family understand.

Answer 4

terrorist! get out now! haha hes g*y.