IS my 6 year old son normal?

Question

My son today just told me that he was looking under his friends sisters door ( she is 10) because he wanted to see her ******.. is this normal??? we never call b*****s by the above word.... IS HE NORMAL? WHat can I say to him so he doesn't do that sort of stuff again?

Answer 1

Its definitely normal for kids to be curious about anatomy. My daughter is 4. She got curious about the differences between boy parts and girl parts. She was doing some embarrassing things too. I couldn't ignore it or chastise her for it. So, I just started teaching her about privacy.

I told her where people's 'private areas' are and what they're supposed to be called. That its no big deal. Everybody has them. Don't touch yourself in public. Don't touch other people's private areas. etc. Don't let other people touch your's either. Tell Mom or Dad if anyone tries.

Then I explained what privacy is. Why we close the door when we go to the bathroom or change clothes. I don't make a big deal about nudity. But I do remind her to wear a towel between her room and the tub and that big boys and girls need to get dressed separately.  

I told her that it's good manners for people to respect each other people's privacy. I let her know she was free to ask me anything she wanted to know. I just try to keep her informed up to her maturity level.

Bad language was handled at a different time. First I stopped using bad language as much as possible. Then I just accepted that she's going to hear bad words from time to time. So, I just sat down with her and told her every bad word I know (but not what they mean) and that they are 'grown up' words that we say sometimes when we shouldn't and that its very bad manners. I told her to ask me about words she didn't know.  When she does I just tell her, that its a good word or a bad word and thats pretty much it.

Good luck.

Answer 2

He's probably heard it from some boys at school, and been influenced, but I don't think it is normal. All the six year olds I know- and I used to be a teaching assistant for y3s, call them b**bies, and do so for a while. Express that it's private, and he shouldn't be looking. But he's probably just curious, so this may be the perfect time for 'when a man loves a women' speach!

Answer 3

hes at the age where he curious just explain to him you would rather him refer to them as breats and explain the diffrences hes now at the age where he notices the diffrences xx

Answer 4

somone may have told him the word.  Just sit him down and tell him

-what they should be called

-when it is propper to mention them

-why people need privacy

and ask why he wanted to see them.  Maybe he heard soething froma  friend or on tv.  but yes, its very normal.

Answer 5

So normal! After you are done being in shock you will laugh about it.

Just explain to him women are not a piece of meat! He can not go looking under doors and say words like that. It is time to teach him to be respectful to all women no matter what. Trust me I was in shock with stuff my son has said. You have to watch what comes on TV Victoria Secret commercials are my son's favorite! Of course his father doesn't care cause "boys will be boys" and he knows his son ain't a g*y. He finally had a conversation with him this year! He should have done it much sooner!

Answer 6

your child is a pervert, at that age (out loud), i thought girls were icky , but your son seems to be a well developed 11 year-old.

Answer 7

Tell him it is wrong, and if he ever says anythung like that again, he will be grounded for a long time, or take away something that he loves.  You need to act now and get rid of these actions, because before you know it, he might do it in public or when you are having company!

Answer 8

Obviously your son is curious, about the anatomy of women. It's completely normal for him to think that at that age. Moving from his toddler and pre-school years, towards his rambunctious pre-teen years.

Maybe you should ask him where he heard that word, explain to him that the word is absolutely unacceptable, and if he repeats it, he'll be punished, whether it's time out, or taking away one of his favorite toys.

Let him know that the parts of women are for them, and when he gets older, he will understand more.

It's that simple. He's not abnormal, just curious. :)

Answer 9

1. tell him the correct termonology

2. talk to him about privacy and how its not nice to violate

3. ask him where he learned the word and why he wanted to see them

4. yes, he is normal, you just need to guide him in the right direction.

Answer 10

i think he is just curious... just tell him that he is doing a wrong thing... and not to do again... correct him

Answer 11

Totally normal.  Kids are very very curious at that age especially when it comes to the opposite s*x.  Kids that age also hear those words from siblings, siblings friends, tv.  It's sad that those words are so natural.  Just explain to him that anywhere a bathing suit covers for a boy or girl is private and no one should ever look or touch there.  You can also use this opportunity to have the good/bad touch conversation.

You might also want to teach him all the proper names.

Answer 12

like miki said, your son is normal, but you really really need to guide him in the right direction now.  

don't be harsh with him, remember he came and told you what he did.  if you're harsh, he may never confide in you again.  however, be firm, let him know what you believe about sexuality and how much you want him to be a decent person.  provide him with info at a level for his age, and be attentive to him.

he'll be OK