Identical twins in the same classroom at school???

Question

I have 3 year old Identical twins that are in the same preschool class right now, and their teacher wants me to put them in different classes for next year and I have decided to try it. I think I might want them in th same kindergarten class, and she is trying to tell me that I cant have them in the same class, I know that in Minnesota(where we live) there was a law passed saying that parents could decide weather or not their multiples were in the same class, and she said she doesnt know about that, dont you think she should know though?? I might have them in different classes, but have not decided yet, but I dont really like her telling me what I have to do with my own kids. I know maybe I am being unreasonable about this, but tell me what you think and do you think ID twins should be in the same class or seperate?? I do know that both of my boys play with the other kids in the class so I am not worried about that. Somebody also told me I should leave it up to the boys to decide.

Answer 1

First off the teacher has no right to tell you this at all and yes she should know the state laws for the state she teaches in. I also think the kids are too young to make such a decision.

My best friend has twins not ID though but she found it better to have them in separate classes during grade school in the early years but later on it was better for them to be together so they could help each other with school work as one struggled.

My kids are not twins but will be in the same grade because they are 2 months apart adopted into being twins I guess..lol I will watch my kids and observe to see if I will keep them together or not. I think the first year I will keep them in the same class.

Answer 2

Do what you think is best for the kids. Me and my sister are twins, and we went to the same class for kindergarden and first grade (After that we homeschooled) and the principle gave us such a hard time, but my sister and i were really shy and we needed each other for support. Do what is best for your kid's, don't let the teacher pressure you.

Answer 3

I would say let them decide what they want to do. They might to for kindergarten be in the say class in then in 1st grade be in different classes. At my school the school lets twin pick. Also I don't know if your school has it but you can put them in the class they want to be. Say one want to be with one teacher and the other want to be with another teacher than you can request. That is a big help at my school. Also Never let the teacher tell you what to do. I hoped this helped.

Answer 4

I think that as their mother, YOU should be allowed to make the decision about whether they are placed in the same class or not.   It's a good idea to give the separation a try in preschool, because they'll probably still see each other in school quite a bit.   If it works out, you might want to let it continue in kindergarten.   But it should completely be up to you, based on how they are doing, and whether you feel it is working best for them.  No one knows your children as well as you do!

Answer 5

I think the teacher should know about the new law, and she shouldn't tell you what to do with your kids ever.  As far as separating them goes, I think that's something you need to talk to the girls about.  Are they comfortable apart?  If they are then by all means separate them, but if they want to be together, let them stay together.

Answer 6

I can't tell you what you should do.

If I was the teacher, I'd be scared to death of ID twins.

Kids are geniuses at tricks.

Maybe not at 3, but I hate to think of what they can do to a teacher by switiching roles.

I've heard of ID twins switching roles in dating the same girl.

YAAGGGHHHH!  

I can imagine all sorts of shennangins.

Answer 7

yes i do because these parents didnt seperate these 2 twins at my school and they had NO friends now

i am sure your children are friendly but with twins they become so close

Answer 8

I think you should put them in different classes. Not necessarily for the sake of "individulality," which a lot of people have mentioned, but because all siblings need to have some time apart from each other. I'm in college, and I know two identical twin sisters who chose to live in the same dorm room, thinking they would have a blast together. They are now completely sick of each other (they had never shared a room before). Since your boys are probably together all the time when they're not at school, I think it would be best if they were separated for part of the day. Not only would this be easier for the teachers, but it would give your sons more of an incentive to widen their social circles and a chance to have different experiences to compare.

Just my two cents.

Answer 9

I personally do not think it should be up to the boys to decide, they do not know what is best for them !I think you are right that the teacher should know ! I also think that it is not wise to have  any sibling, twins or not, in the same classroom ! I remember my sister and I being in the same classroom for 2 years...I believe that her actions took me away from the curriculum because I would be paying more attention to what she was doing, and vise versa !

Answer 10

i do think they should be separated because this will give them a chance to forge their own identity in school and make their own friends. i just think it's a good idea. honestly since they are 3 you should decide, they probably won't even understand the situation to make their own decision. best wishes

Answer 11

I've always heard that you should put them in different classes b/c it gives them individuality.  I think that is important.  We had a few sets of twins when I was in school.  They weren't ever in the same classes until high school.  I would go ahead and separate them.

Answer 12

It's tough not only for the teacher but I think that maybe they might be able to be more social and play with the other kids. I know that I was acidentally put into a kindergarten class with my brother (jk/sk split) and I did nothing but play and fool around with him and did not bother to join the other children

Answer 13

She had no right to tell you what to do with your children. That is up to you to decide.

If your children are playing with different people in school and not just eachother then there is no reason for them to be spilt up.

They have showed they do not depend on eachother and can interact and makes friends with other to.

Answer 14

As a mom of twins in Kindergarden, I can tell you that I in no way, shape or form wanted my twins seperated.  I was a nut about it. I just knew something bad would come of it and they would need each other  etc etc.... Well, I called our school district principal and he and I and the guidance counsler along with the twins pre school teacher had a meeting and hashed it out.   They all felt they should be seperated.  Finally after going so far as to looking to move to another district, I let them seperate them with the stipulation that if there were problems, they could be put together at a later date,and in the meantime they were allowed to sit together at lunch and/or breakfast.  I really hated this idea but hubby was also on their side.  I can honestly say this almost 1 year later, it was the BEST thing I could have done.  It is so great to hear 1 talk about her day and then the other one is listening and they will share what they are doing in thier classes with each other and they each have thier own network of friends.  Yes they really missed each other at first and there were tears but now I doubt they would want to be in class together.   They really love being together at lunch and somethimes they get the same recess and they will play together but it really has worked out for the best.  They are almost done with kdgt and they have each picked out a different teacher they hope they get for first grade.  Please at least give it it try.  Just like you, I know my children best but I also had to take thier pre school teachers advice, she has been there done that!

She should not tell you what to do, just give her opinion.

Good Luck with your decision and remember whatever you decide to do, changes and tweaks can always be made in the future.  Nothing is set in stone.

Answer 15

Some twins fare better at school if separated and some will do better kept together.

The person who knows the children best is the one most qualified to make this decision.

In this case the one who knows the children best is their mother.

Stick to your guns and do what YOU feel is best for your boys.

Answer 16

i don't think it makes a difference either way

they'll either end up closer to each other

or having more, but different friends

Answer 17

It probably helps them be more individual if they are separated,that would stop them being referred to as the twins perhaps. I still think it should be up to you though really. What do the boys think?