Idk what i did wrong should i find out before i write him off?

Question

ok well i'm wondering if i should just leave the guy that has been my best friend for the past year in the dust and forget about him because he has decided that he doesn't want to talk to me or even see me? or should i at least try and find out what it is that made he decide that? after all we've only been friends for a year but we've been best friends. i would do anything for him and he at least said that he would do anything for me. he's never let me leave mad at him cause he can't stand to have people mad at him expesially when it could be permanent. don't i deserve the same from him?

i have been trying for the past two weeks to find out whats up and he's been ignoring my phone calls. and maybe i have a small idea but the only thing that comes to mind is something is trivial. i'm thinking that he's either jealous that i've finally gotten a job and he hasnt or he's gotten tired of our friends wanting to hang out with both of us. and it can't be that he likes me but doesn't want to ruin our friendship cause we've discussed possibly hooking up quite a few times and he's always the one that puts down the idea saying that it would ruin our friendship but he's ruining it by not talking to me

Answer 1

I'd say try at least finding out the reason for which he's no longer talking to you. If you guys have been good friends for a year, let him know that you really value his friendship.

If it's somebody that is dear to you, take the extra steps to make it work.  

Answer 2

Perhaps he has just taken a step back to see how he feels about your friendship

Let him be for a while and have some breathing space - if he still wants to continue in the friendship or turn it into something else - let him do the pursuing

Sometimes even friendships need to have space just like as in any relationship and that includes marriage - sometimes too much togetherness can be a bit smothering and doing things by yourself for a while can make you a more interesting person to be with  

Answer 3

It seem to be he wants to be your friend and like you as a friend.  When guy find out  that instead of friendship you start wanting to get close or like you said hooking up, he was honest telling you that will ruin the relationship.  Don't call him or write to him, back off, that all you can do.  He probably thinks you are desperate.  When he does't hear about you maybe he will call you, but don't get to close.  Don't let him know you are interesting in him if you want to be his friend.  Try to keep away and when you feel like talking to him, call another friend to reinforce you no to make that call.  That probably what he doesn't like.  Men like to be the chaser or maybe he has a girlfriend or who knows what his problem.  I use to e-mail this guy two or three times and he didn't respond and that was the end.  You have to let him go.  I'm pretty sure you would meet the right person.  God bless you........Ga

Answer 4

All i can say is - Some guys are hard to be friends with! There is usually a prob with someone "liking" someone, and the other person not liking them back. Then the friendship ends!